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This could be one of those examples of ‘two steps forward, three steps back’. A young Australian woman says she was outraged and more than a little saddened to have received a message from a stranger on social media that condemned her choice of partner, because he was of a different race.

Cynthia, a 22-year-old from Perth, told the Daily Mail Australia she discovered the message in her Facebook inbox on October 25 and says it was “one of the worst feelings ever felt”.

“I just want to say one thing. You and your boyfriend do not deserve happiness. You are black and he is white. How could you fall for someone with a different race than you. This is disrespectful and disgusting. I can not believe he went for you when he could have gone for another other white girl in australia [sic]. Im [sic] sorry but this is disgraceful. White people should stay with white people!!!!” the message reads.

While the identity of the sender has been hidden, Cynthia did capture a screenshot of it before deleting it.

It raises an interesting discussion point — is there something wrong with interracial couples?

A study published in the United States earlier this year highlighted that while most people say they are accepting of such relationships, there is some hidden bias.

The study, which surveyed students at the University of Nebraska recorded their brain activity while they looked at hundreds of couples and found that the imagery triggered a part of the brain that registers disgust.

This might be somewhat surprising for some, and not at all worrying for others.

However, it’s worth noting that throughout the last few decades there have been numerous interracial relationships that have changed history.

Take Mildred and Richard Loving for example. They married in July 1958 and were promptly thrown in jail. See, at the time of their union there were laws in 24 American states that prohibited the marriage of people from different races. Yet in 1963 they went to the American Civil Liberties Union to fight their case in court and after an extensive battle the Supreme Court ruled that preventing someone from marrying on the basis of race was unconstitutional. It was a landmark victory for the time.

Relationships are difficult. Marriage is one hell of a journey. If you have kids things become slightly more complicated. However, throw in cultural and religious differences and the list of challenges seems to be endless.

Perhaps what is most interesting is that in a time when gay marriage is becoming more widely accepted, getting into a relationship with someone from a different race, religion, heritage or cultural background than you still comes with judgements and a sense of taboo.

What do you think about this topic? Have you ever faced prejudice for your relationship or are you aware of such prejudices being imposed on your loved ones? Share your stories with us.

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  1. I think marriage if hard enough without adding differences of race, religion, heritage or cultural background, I have watched couples with one of these differences having lots of problems because of these differences, mother-in-laws, have very different view on child raising etc and so extra pressures are added, I am not saying these marriages wont work, just those concerned need to work harder at making them work. Jenny

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    • Jenny, I do not agree with your opinion, oh also……Mothers in law……not Mothers in law

  2. They are just beautiful human beings and they look so happy. I feel sick to think in this day and age anyone would talk such crap.

  3. So the wrapping is a different colour, but the inside is still the same. They are a beautiful happy couple in love and life is full of promise. People should mind their own business.

  4. So, if everyone in the world was blind, wwo would know what colour you are. If you make each other happy and care for each other, just ignore that bigot. Whoever they are needs to get a life, they must be a very sad, unhappy person and needs our pity.

  5. She is beautiful and remember we all bleed red blood .

  6. I love the relationship my son has with his beautiful dusky wife. There were certainly cultural differences but they have been able to work through these and both lives have been enhanced. There is so much love, mutual respect and the ability to have the conversations that are essential for every couple. She thinks she is lucky to have a good mother -in -law but I think I’m the lucky one.

  7. I love the relationship my son has with his beautiful dusky wife. There were certainly cultural differences but they have been able to work through these and both lives have been enhanced. There is so much love, mutual respect and the ability to have the conversations that are essential for every couple. She thinks she is lucky to have a good mother -in -law but I think I’m the lucky one.

  8. I couldn’t care less who marries who! As long as they are happy and prepared to make it work – any marriage has to be worked at – then it’s no one’s business but theirs. This couple look great together and the very very best of luck to them!

  9. who’s business is it apart from the couple involved . they could have two heads 10 arms 15 eyes and breathe fire —what they do is entirely their own doing .and no one else’s. tell that wanker to take his hand off it and get a life—rx

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