Good vibrations: Have yourself a buzzy little Christmas

Be inspired by Grace and Frankie and make it all about you this Christmas with a new vibrator. Source: Instagram

“Everywhere I go, people ask if I’ve seen Grace and Frankie,” says Susan Jarvis, founder of The Spicy Boudoir, which specialises in adult sex toys for seniors.

They’re referring, of course, to that magnificent vibrator storyline from season three of the hit comedy; when the two mismatched best friends played by Jane Fonda and Lily Tomlin set up a senior-friendly vibrator business called Ménage à Moi.

“Oh my God, it’s beautiful,” Grace sighs, as Frankie adds with reverence, “It’s so light. It’s like I’m holding a cloud.”

Jarvis loves how the show’s bold storyline has “broken the ice” for older women who find themselves starting that side of their lives again post-divorce – as well as women over 60 struggling with loss of libido.

“It’s really great to see that topic of sexuality and libido in older women brought into the mainstream in such an entertaining way,” Jarvis tells Starts at 60.

Not just for lonely singles and the divorced, vibrators can also help spark conversation with your long-term partner and bring a little hilarity or fun back into the bedroom, says the 54-year-old entrepreneur.

“Long-married couples get into that habit of avoidance and the priority of being sexual with each other falls right down the list,” says Jarvis.

But getting down to business with a vibrator is not just about pleasure. There are loads of unexpected health benefits too. AND we’ve got 15% off all items over $125 in our Big Summer Sale this week only!

A better night’s sleep

When we climax, we produce the sleep-inducing hormone, prolactin, so an orgasm before bedtime can help set you up for a much sweeter slumber. After a good night’s rest, we’re all better equipped to sail through the next day.

Maintain heart health

Those feel-good endorphins that accompany a satisfying sexual episode can help to prevent heart problems by naturally neutralising stress hormones, research by Michigan State University has found. According to Woman & Home magazine, studies have also found that “women who had two orgasms per week were 30% less likely to have heart disease”.

Boost vaginal health

Sounds too good to be true, but frequent masturbation and vibrator use actually helps keep our vaginas healthy, thanks to the secretions our vagina linings produce when we are aroused. This provides more moisture to the region and increases the elasticity of our vaginas – a key factor in vaginal health. For post-menopausal women who suffer from vaginal atrophy, sex with a partner is much more enjoyable after being aroused by a vibrator first.

Better bladder control

Orgasms are like mini-workouts for your vagina. As your vagina contracts during climax, it exercises your pelvic floor muscles too, which means better bladder control. A stronger pelvic floor can also mean more intense orgasms, hurrah!

Good for pain relief

If you suffer from regular headaches, migraine or joint pain, a session with a vibrator can calm the nerve impulses that have caused them. Why? Because the part of your brain charged with pain reduction is stimulated during arousal and endorphins kick in to help soothe neural nerves.

Jarvis, who actively practises what she preaches when it comes to vibrators, adds:

“Any activity that encourages blood flow and releases endorphins for you has to be good for your health and mental wellbeing.

“Before I started menopause, I was diagnosed with anxiety and depression and it was a horrible experience. But what I found is that tapping into my sexual energy has preserved my mental health and boosted my resilience.

“Using a vibrator tops up my tank!”

With 15% off all The Spicy Boudoir products over $150 for our Flash Sale which runs from 25 November – 1 December, there’s no excuse not to make this Christmas all about you for a change!

Here, The Spicy Boudoir’s Susan Jarvis holds your hand – so to speak – as she guides you through finding the perfect vibrator to suit your body, mood and specific needs.

“We need to ditch this idea that sex and sexual pleasure is only about a penis going into a vagina, because there is so much more to it than that and vibrators these days come in so many different styles and modes.”

Best for first-timers: The Amethyst

Dual-stimulating vibrator
Never used a vibrator before? The Amethyst is a great choice.

“Fashioned in sassy purple after its gemstone namesake, this dual-stimulating model is really good for internal use. So if a woman hasn’t explored a sex product before this is a great one to start with. The Amethyst can target both the G-spot and clitoris and has 10 modes of vibration, so you can select the one that feels best for you. I’d recommend it for those wanting to explore the depths of their orgasm and take full control of their own pleasure. Amethyst offers you the total experience.”

Best for those with painful joints: The Ruby


Light and flexible, the Ruby is Santa’s Little Helper for all those with joint issues or weak wrists.

“This fully flexible Ruby massager is designed to bend and flex with the curves of your body for maximum pleasure. Because the design is very flexible and lightweight, it’s really good for someone like myself who gets carpal tunnel syndrome symptoms in my wrist. It’s really easy to hold onto so the Ruby makes a good choice for arthritis sufferers too because you don’t need a lot of strength in your hands to grip it. Use it as a sensual massager around your body to help relax you; or spice things up with the large bulb at the end. It’s perfect for clitoral stimulation, or an internal massage of the G-spot.”

Best for couples and men with erection issues: The Guybrator

Guybrator - Pulse Solo Essential
The Guybrator brings sexual pleasure back into the bedroom for men with erectile dysfunction issues.

“The clue’s obviously in the name with this one. The Guybrator Pulse Solo Essential was actually designed in Germany to assist men with erectile dysfunction and spinal cord injuries ejaculate as part of IVF treatment. But even though it has medical origins, they realised that actually, this is very pleasurable for any man and he doesn’t need to have an erection to enjoy it. The stimulation comes from a lubricated disc device that vibrates with a pulsing motion. We tend to think of male self-pleasuring as a solitary activity, but I would encourage couples to use this one together as a bonding experience.”

Best for those who need a little help getting in the mood: The Twitch Hands

Twitch Hands: free suction and Vibration Toy
Hands-free pleasure to get you in the headspace for sex – or simply enjoy some self-love at bathtime.

“As women get older, we can’t just switch it on when we want to. We don’t have an automatic arousal anymore. Like many older women, my orgasm lives in my head these days, buried under my to do list. This sleek waterproof model will encourage vaginal lubrication and help give you that extra lift to get you in the headspace to experience orgasm. It’s a suction device and you use it directly over the clitoris in the bath or shower.  The Twitch Hands generates a gentle suction which boosts blood flow around the vulva and increases sensitivity in the clitoral region, to give you the most intense orgasms. If you’re a single woman, it’s a luxurious product to treat yourself to self-care. But it’s great for couples too. Your partner can wield it to become master of your clitoris!”

Best for multi-taskers: The Kyro

kyro wand massager
The clever Kyro Wand Massager can massage you – and give you a sexy lift.

“With a design inspired by the scepter of the mighty Egyptian pharaohs, this stylish vibrating wand can do double-time as both a massage aid and sexual stimulator. The Kyro emits strong vibrations concentrated on the wand’s head for powerful direct stimulation so it’s great for massaging your back or your shoulders. But then you can attach an internal massage device and it becomes an intimate tickler as well. So it’s very multi-purpose and good value; while also being light and easy to control.”

Which vibrator style most appeals to you?

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