Having children is an amazing gift and brings so much joy to our lives, no one can argue with that, but have you ever regretted having children?
Some disheartened parents have confessed their feelings online, admitting they often wish they’d never had kids. While it’s definitely hard work and full of ups and downs, we assume most people are so grateful for their children they wouldn’t change a thing. It came as a surprise then to some parents to find out they weren’t alone when it came to feelings of regret.
One dad, who chose to remain anonymous, explained how he was afraid of being labelled a bad parent due to his feelings about his 9-year-old son.
“To be honest, there are times when I just stand there and want to bang my head against the door frame, I just loathe being a parent so much,” he wrote on the website.
“What’s odd about this predicament is that no one, least of all other parents, has much sympathy for you.”
“I do love him,” he wrote.
“I just wish that someone else would be actually enjoying the process of raising him, since … my own life is just markedly less enjoyable since he came along. That’s simple honesty.
One mum said she regretted having her son because she was too young and selfish at the time.
“I do regret the fact that I have done such a lousy job parenting him – he deserved more than I was able to give him,” she wrote.
“I regret having children because I wasn’t ready (23) , and because I’m much too selfish to really care about someone’s feelings other than my own.
“I regret having a child because it’s a really, really big job that I wasn’t able to handle.”
With so many different opinions about parenting out there it makes us wonder just how many people regret having children. Is this something we need to spend more time talking about, and how many parents feel like this without telling anyone?
Have you ever regretted having children? Do you know anyone who feels this way?