Should mothers stay at home with their children? The debate has reopened

It’s the age-old debate that mothers around the world have struggled with: should you return to work or stay at
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It’s the age-old debate that mothers around the world have struggled with: should you return to work or stay at home with your children?

One celebrity mother who has a strong opinion on the issue is Nicole Kidman, who says mothers should return to work so they don’t risk ‘living vicariously’ through their children.

The actress says she is wary of being a stay-at-home mum as she doesn’t want to give up the things that make her happy outside of her family.

“I don’t want to be the mother who lives vicariously through my daughters, so I’m trying to balance it,” she told Harper’s Bazaar.

“I want to be around them, I’m the happiest when I’m around them,’ she said. ‘It’s that simple. But for me to completely give up doing any of this, what would I do artistically?’

Many of us have struggled to balance work and family life for years, with many women who do return to work saying they feel guilty for leaving their children behind.

While some mothers would like to stay at home with their children, financial issues have forced them back into the workforce, meaning they miss out on quality time with their kids.

The question is: should we find a way to stay at home with our children during those all-important younger years, or are we better off going back to work so we have something to focus on outside of the family?

While there are no clear answers, many women have strong opinions on the issue and what they think is best for both children and mothers.

Let’s talk. Tell us what you think.

Should women go back to work after they have a baby? Or should mothers stay at home with their children?

  1. Some Mums NEED to go back to work, be it for financial or personal reasons. I returned to work once our youngest started school. Just because we are female & give birth, doesn’t mean we can’t have a life outside the home. Sometimes we don’t all fit the perfect mould

  2. Some Mums NEED to go back to work, be it for financial or personal reasons. I returned to work once our youngest started school. Just because we are female & give birth, doesn’t mean we can’t have a life outside the home. Sometimes we don’t all fit the perfect mould

  3. How many mothers can afford to stay at home with their kids, it’s not a luxury that I could afford when mine were young and things haven’t improved over the years

  4. How many mothers can afford to stay at home with their kids, it’s not a luxury that I could afford when mine were young and things haven’t improved over the years

  5. It’s a personal choice between husband & wife, no one else’s business, & no one has the right to judge others, it’s not as if we are going to be having any more kids so why are we discussing it, it’s nothing to do with us.

  6. It’s a personal choice between husband & wife, no one else’s business, & no one has the right to judge others, it’s not as if we are going to be having any more kids so why are we discussing it, it’s nothing to do with us.

  7. From someone who has both been a working mum through necessity and a professional in the foster care system, if you can happily stay home and give your child a positive first few years,do so. It is the best gift you can give them. Not everyone is good at those years. We are all different. If you would hate the idea it does not make you a bad parent. Give them your best for the time you are with them and make sure they have the greatest care you can get for them at other times. Secure, positive attachments are what is important.

  8. From someone who has both been a working mum through necessity and a professional in the foster care system, if you can happily stay home and give your child a positive first few years,do so. It is the best gift you can give them. Not everyone is good at those years. We are all different. If you would hate the idea it does not make you a bad parent. Give them your best for the time you are with them and make sure they have the greatest care you can get for them at other times. Secure, positive attachments are what is important.

  9. Yes children deserve to be looked after by their mother!

  10. Yes children deserve to be looked after by their mother!

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