Woman’s response to nasty note left on her car is priceless 11



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If you ever needed proof that you should arm yourself with the facts before firing off a letter of outrage, this is it.

Rebecca Landis Hayes had stepped out for a spot of shopping in Concord, North Carolina in the United States and just happened to park her car in a space specifically reserved for war veterans. (Yes, they have those in the US.)

However, imagine her surprise when she returned to her car to find someone had left a sexist and somewhat vile note on her windscreen.

A little taken aback, a little outraged, Hayes shared the note on social media, and in doing so took the opportunity to share a little bit of information about herself that the anonymous note-writer could not have known just by looking at her… She’s a returned servicewoman for the US Navy.

“I’m sorry that you can’t see my eight years of service in the United Sates (sic) Navy. I’m sorry that your narrow misogynistic world view can’t conceive of the fact there are female veterans,” Hayes wrote.

“I’m sorry that I have to explain myself to people like you. Mostly, I’m sorry that we didn’t get a change to have this conversation face to face, and that you didn’t have the integrity and intestinal fortitude to identify yourself, qualities the military emphasises.”

She ended her post with a simple question: “I served, did you?”

Have you ever made a judgement without having all the information at hand? What do you think of this veteran’s response?

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  1. I think her response was great! People can be so quick to judge without knowing all the facts & reasons & Im sure a lot of us have been the receiver of such judgement at some time in our lives. It doesn’t take much to be kinder & learn the facts before judging..if you don’t the results can be damaging & long lasting. Please be kinder to each other the world needs more kindness & love..not criticism & false judgement.

  2. Loved the response. . Sometimes we r too fast to blame someone..

  3. This reminds me of people who jump to conclusions about others who look ‘normal’ but who park in disabled parking spaces. It could well be that they are there to collect a disabled person; the disabled person could be getting their hair done at a salon, doing personal shopping, or they could be in consultation with a doctor or lawyer or someone like that. So don’t immediately jump to conclusions.

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    • Exactly. I got out of my car to take the walker up to my Husband at the Doctors on Thursday so he could get back to it when finished. He has 5 broken vertebra in his back and massive metal and bolts in his back. I was abused by a Mum with a pram and 2 kids. If she is reading this, thank you my Husband got back to the car, had a bad attack of pain and to the hospital. Most people do not abuse the privilige of disability parking , so don’t judge when seeing their partner taking aids to them in an emergency.

  4. I reckon one of the problems with disability parking spaces is the sign with the wheelchair, which leads some VERY ignorant people to conclude that unless you have a wheelchair you shouldn’t be using it. If they knew how hard it is for some of us to get disability permits from our local councils they might realise they’re not handed out on request.

    Yarra Ranges gave me a full permit on the basis of my then gp’s statement that my lung condition was temporary as I hadn’t then been diagnosed with empysema: now it’s verified as a permanent condition they won’t give me a full permit. One counter staff woman said if she “had her way no-one would get any of these permits” and the council’s disability liasion officer won’t discuss disability permits.

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    • Emphysema is not a disability and is not deserving of the benefits accorded to legitimate sufferers of a disability over which they have no control or means of prevention

  5. My opinion……there is two sides to this story…….was there any sticker or identification that states the car as a veteran’s car…..she could have thanked the one who left the note for looking out for the veterans….why the sarcasm?

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  6. totally agree with Elize. there would be a sticker identifying the “veteran” as there is differently abled in Australia but that said I have a friend who regularly parks in this bays using his mothers sticker..

  7. I am a veteran. My body is disintegrated; riddled with Shrapnel, two rifle wounds, and Bayonetted once. No Veteran parking for me, no Veterans License Plate, no magnets, no Handicap Parking Document to be hooked up to the rear-view mirror. I walk the distance. Five & a half years of full-time combat, six years of Military Humanitarian Work = 11 1/2 years of dedicated service. Never would I pause for any entitlements; the Government took away the local Veterans Affairs Office, nearest 12,000km away and across on a Ferry-ride.

    Such notes denote those of us that blend in, and walk across the parking lot. Less door dings anyhow, LOL.

    God Bless all our female service personnel, and those that continue to make the painful sacrifice quietly.

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