The reason I support euthanasia 630



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I’ve got two parents in their 90s. They’ve lived wonderful, full lives. They were both pilots – a wonderful achievement for my mother particularly as she was one of the first, they opened one of the first resort developments on an island in Queensland, and they’ve run farms and played the property game. They’ve had five children and multiple pets. They’ve enjoyed financial wins and experienced financial losses too.

Their life has been so full, wonderful and exciting but now they’re reduced to nothing. Their lives are confined in the walls of their nursing home. My father is severely deaf, he has had a leg amputated and cannot walk, he has severe emphysema, he has oesophageal cancer and they can’t operate or perform treatment because he is too fragile. He’s also at high risk of heart failure and right now, it’s only a matter of time. My mother has severe dementia and doesn’t remember much at all, has psychotic episodes due to medication where she flies off the handle at nurses and Dad, but remains totally in her own little world. Their dependence on each other is still so massive. Dad looks after her with love despite the fact he can’t walk or do the things most people can enjoy. But Mum doesn’t know any different.

As a family we do what we can. I visit about four times a week; my kids and wife visit as much as they can too. We talk; my daughter will take something freshly baked out of the oven for them, we’ll sit down and I wheel them both to look at the beautiful view on one of the closed access decks.

It’s so small, but that’s the only bout of happiness they are allowed at this stage of life. While Dad’s here mentally, his body is failing on him and he spends time emailing and reading war novels that, as a vet, he can relate to. Mum doesn’t have much happiness at all and when we do these small things she doesn’t understand what is happening or have the opportunity to appreciate it, but she constantly asks to “go home”.

The truth is that two people who lived an incredible, full and happy life have now been reduced to nothing. They’ve no happiness, no normality, no real connection to the people around them or the world they live in anymore. Their different health complications make them feel isolated and disconnected to the world.

The first time Dad told me he wishes he’d go to sleep and die it broke my heart. But now I understand why. They have such a poor quality of life. Sure they’re lucky and should be thankful they have a roof over their head, medical care as they need and food to eat. But is all of that worth anything when there’s really no living to do?

It’s people like my parents that make a case for euthanasia. They’ve lived a good life, so why should they have to suffer now? Especially when they don’t want to.

Tell me, have you experienced something similar? What was your story and involvement? Share your thoughts with us in the comments below…

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  1. Yes please. My mum sits in a room with two strangers. She can’t see or hear almost anything so the grandkids can’t really visit. It is horrible and she begs to die.

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    • I’m so sorry Ellie. I visit my darling MIL. the best MIL anybody could have and hold her frail hand. She can’t see or hear me. All she can do is feel pain from her broken hip and twisted body and I curse that strong Scottish heart that just won’t stop beating. That’s all there is. A heart that won’t stop.

    • I have same problem with my mother she is 95. beyond cruel watching her die. Euthanasia must be controlled must happen. It is love to stop the untold suffering.

    • Pamela butler has put it correctly. I would add, why do we keep them only ” chemically alive”? Without modern day drugs, I doubt our longevity would be possible, so who is being supported, the person or the drug company?

    • What happened to Dr Lypski.. Or whatever his name. I am sure not going to be one of above people.. Sad and cruel for all involved. Seek peace.

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      • Philip Nitschke has had his license to practise as a Doctor suspended as he is said to present a serious risk to the public. He is the founder of pro euthanasia group Exit international
        Euthanasia is legal in some European countries.

    • Cheryl, it is “Gaol” or “Jail”! You’re correct, though, as that was the last I heard, too. I support euthanasia.

  2. I agree, I had a similar situation with both my parents. It was horrible to see my father lose his dignity. So yes yes yes to euthanasia!

  3. I don’t want to die in pain lingering on..what will it achieve? yes to euthanasia

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    • I’m living with some pain, but am prepared not to give up easily. At least not until I’m a vegetable, then shoot me!

    • Libbi my pain is 24/7 but am only reminded of it when others mention pain or their suffering. I don’t let it play any major role in my life.

  4. yes and I was a nurse, worked in the geriatric system, was asked nrly dly’please let me die”

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    • Like you Margaret Newman I was a nurse also and worked in an oncology hospital and have been asked by patients to help them to die,it was heart breaking to watch them suffer but I was unable to help them . I watched my mother die of Alzheimer complications and that was horrendous also so yes,I’m in favour of euthanasia .

  5. A big yes to euthanasia.

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    • I fully agree, when there is nothing they have to look forward too, I think it is cruel that they are kept alive, if they don’t want to be hier anymore. I have seen elderly people suffer, it is not fair. Yes I agree with euthanasia.

  6. Yes I agree to euthanasia.

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    • D.I.Y Euthanasia.
      If you stop going to the toilet, you will become blocked. When they say,” We have to operate”, you do not give permission! You will likely be given pain medicine but, nothing else.
      No one is assisting!!

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