The granddaughter my mother would never meet 9



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When I was a young girl, my mum was concerned because I didn’t play with dolls. She worried that I wouldn’t experience the joys of motherhood as I just seemed to have no maternal instinct! And she was sort of right, I never knew I would be an all-right mother until I was pregnant, then it all came naturally. Sadly, she never saw that side of me. My mum died at 60, from complications caused by a bee sting.

She was so vivacious and strong, she would be laughing down from heaven about how she left this earth – she always knew it’d be a strange ending. We had no idea she was allergic to bees until she was stung and spent her last few weeks in hospital, unconscious. It was a terrible demise but I will always remember her laugh and her inability to do anything by half measures.

I wish she had gotten to see me as a mother, and meet her granddaughter. Because my parents both died at 60, my daughter only ever had one set of grandparents – who lived halfway across the world. She effectively had no grandparents and it devastated me when I thought of what my mum would have been like as a grandmother. She would have doted on her, read her stories, told her about the stars and the universe. She was my role model and my reason for who I was.

I told my sister about how I felt a few years ago and she said that Cecelia didn’t need her grandmother. She explained that every time she looks at her niece, she sees Mum – it was like her spirit reincarnated. I wasn’t sure what she meant because to me Cece was just such an individual, but fast forward to today and I realise, my daughter’s best gift from the grandmother she never met was the strength to be an individual in a world of clones. I know they will meet one day but until then, I’m glad a little piece of my mum has been passed down.


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  1. I wish I had met my mother’s mother! Evidently she was a legend. Home for waifs and strays and loved by all. I often look at the picture of her holding her first grandchild (me) and get so sad that she passed one month after I was born.

  2. My mother died when my first two children were two and a half and eleven months so they don’t remember her. However I see see many aspects of her in my three children and four grandchildren.

  3. My mother died when she was 62. I wish she could have known my daughter as an adult. She would have been so proud.

  4. My mum never lived to become a nana to my children either, she passed away when i was 17, I was so sad about that, i think she would have loved to have to have seen them, she would be a great-grandmother now of 3 beautiful children

  5. My mother died 3 months before my grand-daughter was born.She would have loved her dearly and she would have also have loved my second grand-daughter as she loved her grandson.

  6. My grandmother was gone when my mum was 6 months old you deal with what you have, l didn’t get to have any grandparents that’s life

  7. My mother died when I was 10.She would have loved her grand children & Great grand children. I love my daughter &grand children with all my heart. Xo

  8. my mother never got to see my granddaughter Amy so sad she would have loved her just gorgeous

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