There are some things I am simply too old for… How about you? 81



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There comes a point where you simply have to admit to yourself, “I’m too old for this.” And I’m not talking about things like rock climbing, which, quite frankly, I was too old for my entire life, I am talking about things that I simply have no time for anymore.

As Dominique Browning wrote so beautifully in the New York Times, “There is something profoundly liberating about ageing: an attitude, one that comes hard won. Only when you hit 60 can you begin to say, with great aplomb: ‘I’m too old for this.'”

So here we are – over the hill, put out to pasture, embarking on life’s penultimate journey. Actually, scrap all that because the first thing I am too old for is clichés about age – I am me, not the date on my birth certificate or the lines on my face. Inside, I reckon I’m around 32, but who cares? Because I’m done with my age defining how I am treated or how I behave.

Here are some other things I am too old for:

Fretting about my body

Dear younger self: Stop agonising over every extra millimetre or floppy bit. Trust me, 20-odd years from now, you’re going to look back on yourself and think, “Wow, I look so young and vibrant!” not “Gee I should have done something about those bingo wings.” And I suspect that when I’m 80, I will look back on pictures of me now and think the same thing.

Carting my crap around

It’s not just that I can’t lift heavy boxes any more these days, it’s that I don’t want to. Be gone clutter! Goodbye seven baking dishes, I only ever used one anyway!

Worrying I am not doing yoga “right”

I have never been flexible and now I realise I never will. But the other thing I have realised is that the point of yoga is not to stand on one leg with the other foot on your head, or even to curl up into a perfect, blissful child’s pose. The point is to move within the limits of your own body and to keep your limbs active and stretched. So what if I’m the only person in the room who can’t touch her toes? I’m there, aren’t I?


See above.

Downplaying my achievements

I’ve met many men who have no trouble describing their career, sporting or general life achievements. Why do we women find it so hard to do the same? I can’t answer that but I can say that I’m done with being blasé about my years of experience and what I’ve achieved in life.

People who don’t make good tea

If someone makes you a bad cup of tea – or doesn’t offer you one at all – they don’t really care about your wellbeing. I am too old to spend time with people who don’t love and nourish me in some way, even if it’s as simple as providing a good cuppa.

Fad diets

Oh, I’ve done them all. And it turns out, the best diet is this one: the Common Sense and Listening To Your Body diet.

Breathing other people’s smoke

It took me years to quit smoking and I have no desire to breathe in other people’s second-hand smoke. I can happily say, I’m now too old to be polite if someone lights a cigarette nearby.

Do you share these sentiments? What else are you too old for?


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  1. One thing I find interesting about being over 60 is society’s reaction to my being ‘so old’ … what’s that all about? The number suddently makes my opinions not as important or valued as they once may have been. I’m ‘an old person’, when underneath I still feel like I’m 18, admittedly with a few of life’s scars that have been collected along the way. BUT, it’s a brilliant age to be … loving it!

  2. Spot on! I am also too old to fret about other people’s decisions for themselves, too old to care about what people think about me, too old to care if people dont care what I think. I have earned my own scars, learned my own lessons and although I believe I stil have a lot to offer if no one wants to learn from that , well ce la vie, its their loss, not mine.

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  3. Wonderful article, just wonderful! The only trouble I have with … ing is, the other day swimming with my 26 year old niece in the ocean, after an aqua class, we were having fun mucking about . She chased me out of the ocean and I thought she was going to topple me over on the dry sand. I had to stop her because my knees are my weakness. Oh well had the best time tumbling around like we always do. WHo’s really ageing ?

  4. Good one. I have a granddaughter who has decided I am 61- for the rest of my life! 🙂 Few years ago now……!

  5. Good article! I live in an “over 55 ” and have never done so much exercise in my life! I do Aqua, heart moves and go to the gym and will continue to do this as long as I can. Not trying to look younger but just trying to maintain my health!

  6. I never say never as you never know what you will try or do with Grandchildren too lead the way.

  7. I am 72 and my grandsons 9 and 10 year olds say I act like I’m 23…and my 21 year old told me he thinks it’s time I stopped climbing fences…

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