Do you plan on living where you are indefinitely? Or could you be tempted to trade in your home as your living requirements change? A retirement village provides just the right sense of community for some. Others prefer to downsize to a unit, or sell up for a dramatic sea- or tree-change. But have you considered moving in with your kids?
In some cultures, it is accepted as custom that as parents age, they will move back in with their children. They can help with bringing up their grandchildren, and their children are able to help care for them, should there come a time when they need the extra help. And of course there is the idea that perhaps they just enjoy each another’s company! It is not as common in Australia, but at the 2006 census, one fifth of all Australians were living in some form of multi-generational household.
I think it’s interesting – and perhaps a little bit rude – that when we discuss multigenerational living is an option, conversation tends towards the big question of whether grown children would choose to live with their parents. But what about the parents? Would you want to give up your home to live with your children again?
There are some major lifestyle factors to consider before making that big leap:
Having said all that, living with family can be a wonderful experience, bringing everyone closer together, and allowing several generations to forge a firm bond that might otherwise never be allowed to happen. You will have the opportunity to share in moments together every day you would otherwise miss, and get to know each other on a level you’ve never experienced before.
To give your family the best chance of achieving this wonderful relationship, it’s crucial you set boundaries and write down your arrangement so everyone has clear expectations. I also recommend having an easy ‘out clause’ where all parties have the right to say it’s not working out and move on with minimal hard feelings. Not everyone was made to live together but don’t let it get to the stage where it has a long-term impact on your relationship. If you have to move out to keep things friendly, do it early before things turn ugly!
Have you ever lived with family? Did it work out? What were the challenges and what were the rewards? Or would you consider making the move in the future? Why, or why not?