If you married with an age gap, has it affected your relationship now?

When you are younger, marrying someone that was a bit older than you wasn’t such a big deal.  Even after the years past, kids were born, and houses bought, it still might not have seemed like a big difference.

What about now?  If you were one of the thousands of people that married someone with a 15 to 20-year gap it could start to put a strain on the relationship. Or does it?  The question was posed on the social media platform Reddit after the author of the post noticed it putting a strain on his parent’s relationship.

In the original post, the author wrote about the 16-year gap in the ages of his parents.  While one is 56 and has taken up running and having fun in retirement, the other that is 72 is starting to slow down.  As they wrote, “This is not the only issue between them, but the age difference was so obvious in a way I have never seen before with them.”

The author also stated that this problem concerns them as they are also in a marriage with someone with a ten-year gap between them.  As they wrote, “We are currently 30-40, but after seeing my parents unhappiness it made me worry about my long term future for my relationship.”

Instead of amplifying the author’s worries, many in the same boat help squash them.  One response stated, “We have ten years difference, I (wife) am almost 62 and husband is 52. We’re married 25 years and honestly not a lot has changed over the years.”

Another response came from a woman with a 17-year gap between her and her husband.  She wrote, “So far you can’t tell much of a difference, if any, in our age – he’s extremely young at heart and in mind and body/soul. In fact, he’s more active than me – dirt biking, surfing, exercising, etc.”  She added, “I think it comes down to the people involved, the life experience, the maturity, the honesty and… realistically seeing how the age difference may impact you both as you grow older.

“Personally, I never have or will ever regret marrying him.”

“He’s the love of my life and always will be.”

Finally, one of the men wrote in who had a 20-year gap between him and his bride.  He stated that he’s always kept in good shape to “keep up” but added that a “great help to our relationship is that my lady is intensely interested in some of the very same hobbies, areas of reading and topics of conversation that interest me. Those tend to be very rare in men her age.”

Is there an age gap between you and your partner?  Has it become an issue?  Is it better?  Let us know your story in the comments down below.