Not sure what to put on your bucket list? Here’s where to start

Recently I went to a 60th birthday of some really close friends. It was a great night and everyone was
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Recently I went to a 60th birthday of some really close friends. It was a great night and everyone was enjoying themselves. 

I walked over to a couple of men who were also celebrating being 60 this year and we started chatting about the things we had done, the things we hadn’t done; general chat about our lives.

I must admit to being shocked by these two very successful men – they were quite gloomy and finally admitted that they had achieved everything that they had set out to achieve when they left school. There was nothing left on either of their ‘bucket lists’ for them to do! They each had achieved the pinnacle of their careers, had really happy marriages, great kids, travelled extensively , had had great hobbies and had played sports when they were younger but now there was nothing left to do.

This reminded me of a very dear friend who I met when we were both at university. Her dad told me one day that he had studied every degree there was to study with the exception of medicine and there was nothing else of interest for him to learn. Sadly he passed away a few months later – just before the beginning of the computer age and all the new learnings that go with it. I always believed that he gave up when he thought there was nothing more for him to do and he thought that his life had lost any meaning for him.

So while chatting with these two friends I thought they might have been on the same path to oblivion if they didn’t do something about creating a new ‘bucket list’ now.  

Instead of New Year’s resolutions what about adding ideas to your bucket list – or better still add to it throughout the year so there is always something to look forward to and you remain hopeful of the future. 

Bucket lists can include simple things such as a walk in the park, going to a movie or a restaurant you have read about and want to visit, a list of people you need to call during the year just ‘because’, travel destinations, a new sport you are interested in or a new hobby. Anything and everything that you think might even mildly interest you goes on your bucket list and then you always will have something to look forward to. 

Writing the bucket list down is very important too because when you are feeling a bit down or lonely your mind scans back to all the times you felt down or lonely before and you feel worse – it is also impossible to think of new things to do when you are feeling lonely or just miserable.

I suggest that you add one item or idea to each of the following categories and when you have finished with one idea then add another one so that there are always a minimum of 5 things on your list. 

These 5 things are important for us to maintain a vital life:  

  1. Work or something that contributes to financial security
  2. Some sort of sport to keep us physically fit
  3. An hobby for relaxation
  4. Some sort of learning  to keep our minds mentally alert
  5. Family and friends for  social and emotional well being

Then on top of that we need to speak to at least 7 different people every day.

If we all maintain our lists as a vital part of our life then we will not be like my two mates at the party who had nothing left to live for.

Share your thoughts below.

  1. What a load of cobblers; after 60 is the very best time of your life!

    • I agree Sonia, life is what you make of it and it sounds to me like these people have in their opinion seen it all and done it all. Well I’m quite certain they haven’t, they need to meet people who haven’t done it all and learn a few lessons on life skills.

    • I agree Sonia, life is what you make of it and it sounds to me like these people have in their opinion seen it all and done it all. Well I’m quite certain they haven’t, they need to meet people who haven’t done it all and learn a few lessons on life skills.

    • Trish Daley I’m actually having the best time in my 70s; despite the loss of my husband in 2014. I’m travelling the world, volunteering, caring for my grandchildren, seeing friends; life is pretty good.

    • Trish Daley I’m actually having the best time in my 70s; despite the loss of my husband in 2014. I’m travelling the world, volunteering, caring for my grandchildren, seeing friends; life is pretty good.

  2. My Bucket is to Fly Fish The Okavango, the Pantanal, Rio Negro, Rio Gallegos, Kamchatka, Mongolia and maybe Alaska. Plus a few I’ve fished before and will go back to ie Kiritimati, Florida, PNG etc. B|

    • Thought your List would include many fishing sites Bruce. But how about speaking with 7 people a day as per the List?

  3. My Bucket is to Fly Fish The Okavango, the Pantanal, Rio Negro, Rio Gallegos, Kamchatka, Mongolia and maybe Alaska. Plus a few I’ve fished before and will go back to ie Kiritimati, Florida, PNG etc. B|

    • Thought your List would include many fishing sites Bruce. But how about speaking with 7 people a day as per the List?

    • Allison Hulse. Hi Allison, a list of activities someone wants to do before they die is often called a bucket list, because it is a list of things a person wants to do before they “kick the bucket.”

      As a planner by temperament I’ve been doing all of the other life things for a couple of years at least.

      During my working life I had the nickname of “Havachat” as I had to communicate with a lot of people to achieve my targets and the more I exceeded those targets the bigger the bonus.

      Yesterday I had a long talk with my best mate but only talked to a couple of other people. I did learn a lot of new things as I kept my mouth closed and my eyes and ears open.

      Friday I was out and about so I hadachat with 20 plus people. I do not have a Chat KPI so I chat when I feel like it or it is necessary. Cheers 😉

  4. Hang Glide for me! Just waiting for granddaughter, as she wanted to do it with me…

  5. Hang Glide for me! Just waiting for granddaughter, as she wanted to do it with me…

  6. Well for me. Learning new crafts. Doing courses at the Tourist Information Centre where I volunteer. Tomorrow I am joining U3A. So many activities and courses that I cannot fit them all into my week. Go out there and look and you will find so many things to do and learn.

  7. Well for me. Learning new crafts. Doing courses at the Tourist Information Centre where I volunteer. Tomorrow I am joining U3A. So many activities and courses that I cannot fit them all into my week. Go out there and look and you will find so many things to do and learn.

    • Good on you Debbie. U3A is fantastic. I was going to go to their balance and bones group tomorrow, but have come down with some balance thing so probably wont get there. But I do go to a lot of their other activities.

  8. 1. To overcome massive anxiety and get my teeth fixed. 2. To join something or get a hobby 3. To have a break for 5 nights on the Sunshine Coast. That is about it for now lol

  9. 1. To overcome massive anxiety and get my teeth fixed. 2. To join something or get a hobby 3. To have a break for 5 nights on the Sunshine Coast. That is about it for now lol

    • i had that too , but man what a surprise , no need for a flinch , didnt hurt at all , honestly i never felt a thing at all . 🙂

    • Julie. With modern dentistry things are virtually pain free. I had to have root canal therapy on a tooth 40 years ago and it was awful. Had to have another done last year and was extremely reluctant. My dentist promised me it wouldn’t be painful and he was right. Minor discomfort but no more. go do it as Alana said it will be worth it!

  10. It sounds like these men lived for work and were real workaholics. Put all that work ethic into volunteering, or creating. I’ve done some of the bucket-list things I wanted to do but on that list is ‘see Australia” which isn’t happening as we find our holiday budget goes on trips to Canada to see my son, daughter in law and granddaughter. This however has let me do some of the other bucket list items, go to a pacific island, see volcanos and geysers. Visit the UK in particular Scotland where my grandfather hailed from. I’ve always wanted to learn to sail I may have to work on that one.

  11. It sounds like these men lived for work and were real workaholics. Put all that work ethic into volunteering, or creating. I’ve done some of the bucket-list things I wanted to do but on that list is ‘see Australia” which isn’t happening as we find our holiday budget goes on trips to Canada to see my son, daughter in law and granddaughter. This however has let me do some of the other bucket list items, go to a pacific island, see volcanos and geysers. Visit the UK in particular Scotland where my grandfather hailed from. I’ve always wanted to learn to sail I may have to work on that one.

  12. Yes go see Australia by Caravan or
    Motorhome a Great Life I would love todo it with some one as Company is important Lions Clubs Probus Clubs Men’s Sheds Meet Ups Some Thing every Day I prefer some one to go with Fishing

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