‘The final straw’: Gran’s dilemma after ‘bully’ partner made grandson cry

Dealing with someone else’s children and grandchildren can often be tough, however one grandmother revealed her family are calling for her to “throw out” her partner after he shouted at her grandson.

The anonymous woman revealed she is now having second thoughts about her choice of partner after he shouted at her five-year-old grandson, who is staying with them, and made him cry.

The concerned grandmother, 49, penned a letter, asking for help, to British agony aunt ‘Ask Deidre’, revealing she’s had enough of his “controlling behaviour”.

“When my partner made my grandson cry yesterday it was the final straw. I have had enough of his bullying and controlling behaviour.

“He moved in with me six months ago. My daughter’s son is five and is staying with me while his dad is having treatment for leukaemia. My grandson misses his mum and dad so I am making allowances.

“He spilled a drink on the table and my partner really shouted at him. It was so uncalled-for.”

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The woman went on to say that she has made excuses for his inappropriate behaviour in the past, before revealed that her daughter – the child’s mum – is unhappy with him for disciplining her child so harshly.

“My daughter hates him for laying down the law and constantly slagging off my family and wants me to throw him out on his ear.

“I have made excuses for him in the past but seeing my grandson so upset is making me think twice.”

In response to the woman’s problem, Deidre suggested that there was a reason she initially wanted him to move in with her and advised the worried gran to reconsider the values she appreciates in him.

“He was out of order but something made you invite him to live with you,” the reply reads. “If you think he has some qualities you value, spell it out that he has to be accepting of your family and cannot be your priority all the time.”

In a similar story, we recently revealed how a concerned feared she wouldn’t have the same connection with an adopted grandchild, as she does with her grandkids who are related by blood.

“My problem is that I don’t know how to handle this,” she wrote. “I’ve been very supportive throughout all the adoption process, for my daughter’s sake, but really, I don’t know how I feel about this. I’m worried that I won’t be able to bond with this new child (I really want to say ‘strange’ child!).”

What do you think? Have you experienced something similar?