Male loneliness: How men can overcome this “critical health crisis”

Older generations of men were often told to “tough it out” and keep their feelings to themselves, urged to carry on no matter what struggles they were facing. But as recent research shows, loneliness is one battle men should never face alone.

The research, conducted by Mentoring Men, found that Australian men are lonelier than ever, with more than half of men aged between 35 and 50 years old meeting the criteria for loneliness and lacking companionship.

Alarmingly, men who experience loneliness are roughly twice as likely to have suicidal thoughts compared with those who do not.

Mentoring Men chief executive Filipe Gama e Silva said loneliness is a “critical health crisis” that has far-reaching consequences.

“The loneliness crisis is a critical health crisis (and) our research shows the vast majority of men are open to support, but many don’t know where to turn so they just push through on their own,” he said.

“This isn’t just impacting men, but their families and communities too.”

While experiencing loneliness can seem overwhelming at times, Professor Tim Moss PhD, from Healthy Male, recently told Starts at 60 that men can take practical steps to help turn things around and strengthen their connections.

• Self-reflection: Take some time to reflect on personal interests, values, and goals.
• Step out of your comfort zone: Take a break from your routine and try new activities or join clubs and groups that align with your personal passions.
• Reaching out: Don’t be afraid to reach out to friends, family members, or acquaintances. Share thoughts, feelings, and experiences to foster deeper connections with those around you.
• Building a support network: Build a strong support system of trusted individuals who can offer a listening ear, advice, or simply companionship during challenging times.
• Seeking professional help: If feelings of loneliness persist or become overwhelming, consider seeking professional help from therapists, counsellors, or support groups.
• Prioritise self-care: Engage in activities that promote self-care and emotional well-being. This may include practicing mindfulness, maintaining a healthy lifestyle, pursuing hobbies, or engaging in regular exercise.

Moss also speaks to the importance of relationships when it comes to addressing loneliness, explaining that “relationships need to be tended to, a bit like plants in a garden.”

“Spend a little time each day to contact a friend,” he advises.

Moss also suggests that those who experience loneliness should give volunteering a go, highlighting the benefits that can come with giving back.

“Helping others gives us a connection with them, which can ease loneliness,” he says.

Loneliness can be a tough battle, but it’s not one men have to face alone. From reaching out to a loved one, volunteering, or reengaging with life, there are meaningful ways to find support and connection at any stage of life.

-with AAP.

Read more: 5 ways to overcome loneliness and nurture meaningful bonds

If you or anyone you know needs help: Lifeline — 13 11 14; MensLine Australia — 1300 789 978; BeyondBlue — 1300 224 636; Suicide Call Back Service — 1300 659 467; Headspace — 1800 650 890; Kids Helpline — 1800 551 800.

IMPORTANT LEGAL INFO This article is of a general nature and FYI only, because it doesn’t take into account your personal health requirements or existing medical conditions. That means it’s not personalised health advice and shouldn’t be relied upon as if it is. Before making a health-related decision, you should work out if the info is appropriate for your situation and get professional medical advice.