A woman has shared her panic after beginning a secret affair with her late husband’s older cousin, despite the fact he’s dating her own mother.
Just six months after losing her husband of 14 years, the woman began sleeping with his relative after he offered her comfort in her grief – and now she’s pleaded for advice on whether to come clean to her mum, or end the affair now.
Writing to The Sun‘s advice column Dear Deidre, the 33-year-old woman revealed her 52-year-old lover has been dating her widowed mum for two years, but she recently got close to him herself.
“I’ve fallen for my late husband’s cousin and we can’t leave each other alone. The problem is he’s being going out with my mother for the last two years,” she wrote.
The anonymous mother said the “good-looking, good-hearted man” had been a close friend of the family for years, thanks to his connection to her late husband, and her 12-year-old daughter even calls him “uncle”.
His own marriage broke down three years ago, before he began a relationship with her mum. However, despite them apparently being “happy” together, the woman admitted he took an interest in her instead when they both saw each other at a pub on a night out.
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“We chatted and had such a good time. It was the first time I’d laughed since my husband passed away. He asked me to meet him the following night,” she explained. “One thing led to another and I’ve been seeing him now for just over three months.”
Describing the sex as “amazing”, she added: “He wants to go public with me as he doesn’t like sneaking around. I don’t know what to do. I think that I love him and don’t want to be on my own but I don’t want to hurt my mum or my daughter, who still calls him ‘uncle’, like she always has. I feel like I’m living a lie.”
She didn’t get a comforting response from the agony aunt however, who urged her to end the affair and said it was unhealthy while she was still grieving herself.
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Deidre wrote: “This relationship has set my alarm bells ringing. You’re not thinking this through. If he’s so keen on you, why does he still see your mum? You say he’s a good-hearted man but that’s not my impression at all. How could he cheat on a mum with her daughter? He sounds like a chancer to me.”
She ultimately urged the woman to end the affair, and advised she tell her mum to end her relationship with the man, too.