Time for a new sexual revolution

Picture this! A beautifully made-up woman is on the golf course. She’s fresh from the hairdresser, wearing full make-up with mascara and eyeliner, and she’s fitted out in the latest trendy clothes. If she’s under 55, she’s greatly admired, but if she’s over 60 she’s “mutton done up as lamb”.

Now along come two men who wolf whistle at the woman. One is aged 25. He gets away with it because after all – “boys will be boys”. His grandfather, who’s 75, whistles and people think he’s either a silly old fool or a dirty old man.

What about the young couple who walk arm in arm and stop to kiss along the pier at the beach? If they stop for a passionate kiss in front of the crowd they’re love­birds. If they’re over 60, they’re a public embarrassment.

Why does society relegate people much beyond 55 to second-class sexual citizenship? Let’s have a sexual revolution for the older folk and make it not only OK, but actually wonderful, to be sexy in your 60s, 70s and indeed ….until rigor mortis sets in.

Let’s look at the advantages of sex for seniors:

Once you’re retired and the kids are off your hands, you’ve got time without interruptions. You can relax because you don’t have to have your “inbuilt antennae” waiting for that sudden interruption from a child who’s having a nightmare or vomits in your bed.

You can also relax because you don’t have the stresses and worries about work and earning money. With time on your hands, you can concentrate on expanding your sexual repertoire and making your technique excellent so that you become a better lover. You can savour all the wonderful sexual techniques you’ve learned over time and even explore new ones that you never even heard about when you were younger!

Sex when you’re older can be so much better than when you were young and nervous about doing or saying the right thing at the right time. You can ­really get to know your partner -whether you’ve been together a lifetime or whether you’ve only recently met. You have time to communicate and talk and share. These are qualities which women value in particular. In fact, a survey of older women who regularly spent time talking with their partner and had lots of cuddles and kisses showed that they were 300% more likely to want to have sex!

Of course, the absolutely best advantage of being older is that you can relax about contraception because you can’t get pregnant!

I’m certainly looking forward to when I’m not working flat out and I can have unlimited time to explore the Eastern Tantric “sexercises” that I talk about on my audiotape in the Sensational Sex series called Eastern Sex for Western Beginners. I encourage all my fellow baby-boomers to set that as their twilight year goal as well.

You can still learn something about sex, no matter how old you are.  It’s so true that “when you are green you grow and when you are ripe you rot”. If you don’t use your sexuality there’s a danger that it will shrivel up and disappear and this is not a good look or feel! We’ll probably lengthen our lifetimes too, because good sex releases the body’s natural happy drugs – the endorphins – and these make us feel good.  When we are old and still being sexy we may have wrinkles on our faces… but we’ll have jolly big smiles as well!