The Tables are Turned: Studies Show Older Women Want More Sex Than Men

Stereotypes are made to be broken and that’s exactly what’s happening in regards to who wants more sex in a relationship. Psychologists have found that women are demanding more sex than their male partners.

This is putting men in relationships under pressure, says Grant Pearson from Relationships Australia. “We are finding more women are demanding sex [than men]”, he told the Daily Telegraph. This really turns the stereotype that men are the ones pushing for intimacy on its head, when it appears it could be the other way around. Pearson says he has female patients that claim their partners aren’t giving them enough pleasure.

This could be because sex and intimacy for a woman is more closely related to their sense of feeling loved – we all like to feel wanted and desired, and having a partner who is not bothered about it can be pretty hurtful. There are obviously other health issues as we get older and some medications can make men more self-conscious and unable to perform as they used to, while their wives and partners are left unsatisfied physically.

I also think that we are held to different standards in our culture where if you’re a female with sexual desires above the “norm”, you’re shamed for it. Some don’t even realise they have those desires as they can be quite suppressed. On the other end of the spectrum, men are pressured to be sexual beings who love sex, and I imagine many feel quite emasculated by a woman who wants sex more than them, which could be causing problems for both people in the relationship. In my experience, men do not like to admit that they have a low sex drive or don’t feel like having sex. They are pressured to perform by society, essentially. And what about those men with erectile dysfunction? They might also struggle to meet their partners needs due to medical issues.

A study of sexually active women (with an average age of 67) has found that as we get older, our sexual satisfaction increases, whereas men’s decrease. Could this be why women are feeling more sexually needy than the opposite sex?

Just this week an Indian husband filed for divorce from his insatiable wife. Her desire for sex was too much and he did not like being forced into having unnatural intercourse. While this is an extreme case – is that the reality of these new findings? Could men be upset by their lady’s needs? In a world where men commonly divorce or separate from their wives for the opposite (i.e. lack of desire and sometimes years of sexual inactivity), is it a welcome breakaway from the mould or should we be communicating better with our partners about what we need sexually?

What do you think? Have you been the wife who wants more sex? Or the husband who has an insatiable wife? Or something else? How do you think we can get what we need in the bedroom so that it’s fair?