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‘I’m no longer his personal bank account’: Hurt mother slams ‘selfish’ son

Jun 03, 2018

The hurt mother has taken to Gransnet to ask for advice. Source: Getty

A mother has ignited an online debate after revealing her “thoughtless” son and daughter-in-law always expect her to foot the bill at dinner.

The anonymous woman took to Gransnet to ask for advice. Posting on the online forum, she wrote: “My DS [darling son] and his wife are short of cash and I’ve supported them financially where I can for a couple of years, especially since DGS [darling grandson] arrived this year.”

The mother went on to explain: “But I’ve started to feel just lately that I’m being taken for granted and I’m expected now to pay each time we all meet for dinner, brunch, coffee etc.”

She went on to say that her son and daughter-in-law don’t even make a “weak” attempt to try and pay, adding: “They usually order the most expensive items on the menu”. The mother added: “It’s hurtful and makes me very sad.”

“I’ve firmly decided to stop paying their share of bills when we eat out, and to generally stop being so over generous with my hard earned money. But I feel so awkward telling DS that I’m no longer his personal bank account,” she wrote.

The post generated plenty of responses with many warning the mother her son and daughter-in-law are “sponging” off her.

One user said: “Stop paying for them. That’s sponging, not just taking you for granted. They need to step up and be adults. They’re parents now – they need to set a good example for their child.”

Another added: “Difficult one for you, but feeling used is not a good feeling, and needs to be tackled in some way.

And a third wrote: “I think they are taking you for granted. Phone beforehand and suggest that you go halves. It’s only fair. Spongers.”

Meanwhile, others suggested alternative ways to avoid paying each time, with one user adding, “Next time you are out with them ‘forget ‘ your purse at home”.