‘My mum deliberately snubbed me from her will and told me’

A mum who plans to leave her daughter out of her will has been labelled as “nasty” and “insensitive”. Posting on Mumsnet the hurt daughter asked if it’s okay to cut ties with her mother. 

She wrote: “This afternoon I phoned my parents (spoke to my mum) to ask about arrangements for Father’s Day this weekend. Before I could speak, she told me that she is going to her lawyers this afternoon to sign her will.”

The woman went on to say her mother told her not to expect anything, but her sister and her two sons will be very well looked after. 

She added: “I am incredibly upset at being cast aside like this but not because of the lack of money. I find it so hurtful that my parents think so little of me that they would do this and given that we have a good relationship and are in regular contact I don’t understand why.

The woman said her mother made a similar statement a few years ago and she she asked why, “she told me that all I care about is money and called me mean and selfish”.

“How should I proceed with this? ” She asked. “There have been many other similar incidents over the years and I’m now considering cutting contact as I find it hard to deal with the hurt and confusion her comments cause.”

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Unsurprisingly, many could relate to her plight, with inheritance battles and bickering making its way into most families at one point or another.

One user wrote: “My DM [darling mother] use to do this. I told her to stick her inheritance up her a**e. That put her gas on a peep.”

However, most readers slammed her mother calling her “nasty” and “immature”.

Another added: “What a nasty things to say. I’d reply: ‘That’s fine mum, you leave your money to whoever you want’, change the subject and don’t refer to it ever again. She’s enjoying the hold over you.”

And a third wrote: “Wow! Tell her that you feel very hurt. Tell her that it has little to do with money and everything to do with feeling rejected.”

What do you think? Should an inheritance always be split equally among siblings? Have you fought over inheritance with your family?