Weddings are usually a cause for celebration amongst the family, but it’s not uncommon for them to cause conflict or discontent either. This has definitely been the case for Redditor Benicenotstupid, who has threatened to uninvite her older sister over her choice of dress for the wedding.
The story, posted to the Am I The A**Hole sub-Reddit, has gone viral and made headlines, owing to the nature of the conflict. The 26-year-old bride-to-be has had to deliver an ultimatum to her 28-year-old sister, who is serving as one of her bridesmaids, over her dress choice.
The sisters were raised in a fairly liberal home and the bride has not previously had a problem with her sister’s clothing choices, which are usually skimpy. However, this time she feels very differently.
“My sister, who is also one of the bridesmaids, has shown me what she intends to wear. I was shocked, to say the least,” the bride said.
“The dress shows clearly that she’s not wearing a bra or panties because it has a slit up to her waist and her back and chest are barely covered. I’m uncomfortable with her being around other people especially my fiance and his family looking like that.”
While she doesn’t post a photo of her sister’s dress, the bride provides a link to an image of pop icon Beyoncé wearing a similarly revealing dress on stage. The bride has decided to give her sister an ultimatum over her attire.
“I told her if she doesn’t find a different more decent dress, then she is no longer one of the bridesmaids and she’s not invited to my wedding anymore,” the bride wrote.
“She feels that I’m being unfair since I have no right to control what people wear and I also let all bridesmaids choose whatever design they wanted as long as they stuck to the colors I gave. Her chosen color sticks to the color scheme and that’s okay but the design makes me feel it’s not appropriate.
“I don’t want my sister flashing my guests but she called me an AH when I disinvited her. Now she and my parents are not talking to me. My fiance said he had no opinion on it and would go with what I decided.”
In an overwhelming show of solidarity, the online community united behind the bride, recognising the balance between personal expression and respecting the sanctity of her wedding day.
“Annnd this is just one reason why people elope,” one person began.
“Put your foot down that your sister will not be dressing like she is going to a MTV music awards show-or she will not be in your wedding. Because you are the damn bride, and in this case you can control what your bridal party- and even guests-wear.
“Even if your parents aren’t talking to you, (or don’t even attend), you can still get married. And your sister can be disinvited if she doesn’t behave.”
“Sister’s dress sounds inappropriate (or at minimum stylistically clashing) for the occasion. Especially for someone in the party. I don’t think OP is being unreasonable here, but sister and parents sure are,” commented another.
“That dress is totally inappropriate for your wedding. This is also incredibly attention seeking, and she’s not the main character at your wedding. She should choose something else.”
“Just boot the drama princess from the bridal party now. She would be the type to show you a conservative dress, then waltz up the aisle in her underwear,” suggested another user.
“It’s your wedding – it’s about you not your attention seeking sister,” another commented.