For some people, making friends growing up was a breeze. For others, it wasn’t easy – either making friends, or keeping them. However, when we’re younger, the sole criterion for making friends was that there was another young person there who you could have a good time with – be it at school, sports or even a social gathering. As we age though, there is a general fear that surrounds the process of making friends. For almost all adults, it can be difficult to make friends, and making and keeping them is an active process.
At all stages of life, friends are important to alleviate feelings of isolation and loneliness. Major life changes – including moves, new jobs or new relationships – cause friendships to evolve, and unfortunately at times, to drift apart. However, it feels strange to make new friends as an adult, because apart from the associated awkwardness of reaching out to new people, you don’t want to come across as pushy or needy.
On the other hand, there are those friends you see only occasionally, whom you may want to build deeper connections with. While building friendships, it’s important to acknowledge that there needs to be an exchange of value added to both your lives. Whether it’s joy or emotional support, it is crucial to keep the communication flowing at a constant, and being upfront about your feelings with each other. This will help build strong emotional bonds for potential lifelong friendships.
You need to have a circle of friends that includes close ones and casual acquaintances. Some ways to make friends and/or keep them as an adult include: