Magda Szubanski shares heartbreaking video of her elderly mother

If you’ve watched an elderly parent become frail and start to fade then you know all too well how heartbreaking
Magda Szubanski has posted a heartwarming tribute to her "fading" elderly mother on Instagram. Source: YouTube

If you’ve watched an elderly parent become frail and start to fade then you know all too well how heartbreaking it can be.

For Aussie comedian Magda Szubanski that’s the situation she is currently facing, and she’s opened up about on social media.

In a touching video on Instagram, Magda opened up about watching her 92-year-old mother “fading so fast”.

The video, of the two sitting and holding hands, is absolutely beautiful.

“Mum and I spend a lot of time like this these days. Just sitting quietly holding hands,” Magda wrote.

“She’s fading so fast. Good day and bad days. She’s often not sure if I’m her mother or her sister or her daughter.”

How heartbreaking for Magda!

She revealed she visits her mum “nearly every day” and sits with her or takes her for drivers.

“Every day I see all the other daughters doing the same thing,” she wrote.

“A secret army of carers mother daughter love.

“As Bette Davis said, “old age ain’t no place for sissies”.

And if you’ve ever been in Magda’s situation, you’ll be able to relate to her feelings of guilt too.

“I’m not her full time carer but I do as much as I can,” she said.

“And always fear it’s not enough.”

Sadly, so many of us have been there and it’s a heartbreaking situation for everybody involved.

Magda has shared many photos and videos of her mum on Instagram over the years.

Three weeks ago she shared a beautiful video of her mum meeting her great-grandson.

“Mum still frail but much improved and spending time with my sis Barb, granddaughter Sarah, me and latest great grandson whom she clearly adores You may think she’s biased. I think she’s spot on!” Magda wrote.

Can you relate to how Magda is feeling? What words of comfort would you offer her?


  1. Yvonne Wallwork  

    Hi Magda, my elderly Mum lives alone in Poland. I visit her at least once a year. Not as often as I would like but it’s a long way from Australia. She is 84 and is still able to look after herself but who knows how long for? I ring her few times a day and we see each other on Skype. We touch screens which is our way of holding hands. Lots of love Yvonne

  2. Meryl Hill  

    Magda, after doing the same as you, and losing Mum 18 months ago, let me tell you, it is enough. Just the sound of your familiar voice, the touch of her daughter and the laughter that you cannot help but emit, is so comforting to their confused minds and frail bodies, and gives them a peace that no one else can provide. The greatest line my mum said when asked if she knew who I was … “No but I know you are the lady that I love”. That says is all. Relish the memories of these special moments xx

  3. Trish Bolton  

    I was able to keep my Mum at home until she passed away at almost 94, we had always been very close, it doesn’t matter if she knows who you are or not, what is important is the love she feels from you and the peace it will give to her and yourself. When she has gone just know that you made her time special for both of you, and you will be able to cherish how you made her final days, full of love & peace.

  4. Jeanette  

    When our parents start to age it is hard to know what you can do l am sure if you go and see her often she would be very happy to see you .My mother lived with me for 18years and we and my children have lovely memories Mum went very quickly just went to sleep and knew nothing nice way for her but sad for us .Just keep going to see her &holding her hand they are precious .

  5. Helen Morris  

    Hi Magda. Like you I visited my mum along with my sister. We shared our days so mum had visits every day. I would go lunch and dinner and sit and chat and feed my mum. I remember always telling my mum how much I loved her and this particular day she said “I love you too”. She never said that again after that visit but I always did and always told her who I was even though she couldn’t remember. I always talked about the things she did and what I had done every day. It was repetitive but I know she was listening. I would play her favourite Doris DAY and Dolly Parton music and sing to her. She would give me a look and raise her eyebrows . I knew she was still there but Mum never spoke again. Mum passed away 3 years ago this Mothers Day. I am so lucky to have spent those years with her and wouldn’t have done it any other way. Mum was 94. Miss her dearly. Magda keep doing what you are. Your mum hears and sees you. Hold her hand as long as you can and spend time with her.she knows you.

  6. Ann Chambers  

    Very sorry to hear about your Mum Margaret’s deteriorating health. I played tennis with your Dad Peter at Croydon Tennis Club many years ago. Then years later I used to see your Dad and Mum when they shopped in Boronia. We often had a conversation. I was sad when your Dad passed away, I thought he was a really lovely man. I didn’t see your Mum shopping after Peter passed away. I am sure you are doing all you can for your Mum, but it must be very hard for you and your family to see her getting more frail each visit. You don’t know me Magda, however I have great memories of my tennis playing time with your Dad as well as lovely memories seeing your Mum & Dad when shopping. Regards Ann

  7. Marie Troeth  

    Hi Magda, My dear Mum is 94 and I have noticed her mobility decrease significantly over the past 3 months. It is so sad to watch her struggle to maintain her independence. Just love her and hold her hand – you will feel reassured that she is not alone. You are doing enough!

  8. Fran  

    Qi am visiting my mother after 18 months. She is 93 and I arrived to find her 30 kg. It was so confronting as it was like opening a coffin. It is terrible Alzheimers and dementia. I have a new found admiration for the caring nurses and carers. Amazing people. I am not handling very well as covered in mixed emotions wishing on one hand I had never come and on the other leaving before she dies which is every day. More politicians should be confronted with situations like this a perhaps more money provided for carers. I wish they would let her go instead of feeding and drugs.sad to say I am no good at this vigil.

  9. Barbara Provis  

    I too visit my elderly mother Jessie, as often as time permits. She is 95 and fading. Ive recorded old music she loves and used to dance to regularly up until about 4 years ago. She sometimes remembers them. I sing them to her and smiles and nods. She knows who i am but not my name. She greets me with such familiarity every time I visit. I also show her travel photos, photos of her grandchildren and great grandchildren and she looks at them like they’re new to her. It’s harder for me than her and i fund it distressing when she asks “whose going to come and get me later?” There is little windows of remembrance but they are few. She is far better in late morning to visit than late afternoon. She is loved by the staff at the nursing home, they tell me often. She is a gentle soul and I love her dearly.

  10. Maria Berry  

    Hi Magda,Just a message of support from a complete stranger. As our Parents age and the journey takes it road on all the pot holes ..there are many! Know that you are there for your Mum , you are doing and being all that you can to support her, and I know you will never leave her side in this journey of life .youwillhave moments of sadness but never regret .Stay strong .

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