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Since the allegations came out about Bill Cosby and his disturbing past, his wife Camille has stood by him. Never wavering in her support of the TV star, Camille may soon need to front court and testify against her husband.

The only problem is: Camille is doing everything in her power not to.

According to CNN, a Massachusetts court has denied a motion by Camille Cosby to quash her deposition order. Camille Cosby will now have to testify in a defamation suit brought against her husband.

There are seven plaintiffs who allege that the “defendant drugged and/or sexually assaulted each” of them, according a court document denying Camille Cosby’s request.

Interestingly, Camille is believed to hold key evidence about how Bill obtained the quaaludes he is alleged to have used on the women when he assaulted them. But she had never admitted to this.

They are among 50 women who have accused the star of drugging them and raping or fondling them, most of whom have come out in the past year. Bill Cosby has continued to deny any wrongdoing, as has his wife.

Bill has continuously called the women liars and countersued, saying they hurt his reputation and derailed plans for his new family comedy on NBC.

On Thursday, United States Magistrate Judge David H. Hennessy wrote that he found “no merit” in Camille Cosby’s claim that “Massachusetts’ marital disqualification law renders her incompetent to testify in this matter … and accordingly deny her motion in its entirety”.

Camille simply does not want to testify against Bill – it’s the man she loves.

But it raises bigger moral questions about why she would defend him and if that’s just what wives should do. Without speculating, they may be more to it than she just doesn’t want to be another woman who has bad things to say about her husband.

Camille Cosby released a statement supporting her husband, describing him as the victim in this situation.

“The man I met, and fell in love with, and whom I continue to love, is the man you all knew through his work,” she said.

“He is a kind man … and a wonderful husband, father and friend”.

As we reported yesterday, Bill, 78, is facing the first charge of sexual assault in Pennsylvania.

Tell us, do you think a wife should take her husband’s side, no matter what? Is this case different?

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  1. It will be interesting to see how this all unfolds. At least at long last it is going before the courts. It is timely to remember that Mr Cosby is innocent in the eyes of the law and the charges against him have to be proven.

  2. Let’s assume that this man is innocent, as we all should until he is proven guilty beyond reasonable doubt. Should a wife stand by her innocent husband? If not, why not?

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    • So in your opinion if 50 women are prepared to testify that makes him guilty. What is the point of having a court case? I sure hope that each of these women came forward without being asked or coerced.

    • … the law requires the formality of a court case and process. If she believes/knows that he is innocent she should stand by him. If she knows that he is not, it’s up to her to make the decision… but if called upon, she will be required to tell the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth.

    • Suźanne Kader 50 women who seem to be remarkably well coached by sleazy lawyers. I am not condoning the casting couch but it was a reality in those times. Cosby has paid a huge price for his indiscretions, there are hundreds of actors, rock stars and the like who can be sued next on the word of wannabes.

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      • Absolutely not! If it was my husband had been accused with overwhelming evidence of his guilt, he would be on his own, & my girls would feel the same. As for those women being well coached on the subject, what a dreadful thing to say. These women have spent years living with this shocking secret, & thank goodness they have found a voice in Gloria Allred. Personally, I’m not a fan of her, but at least these women may receive the justice they so rightly deserve.

    • Ruth do you really belive these women will put themselves through all of this to be ‘wannabes’! I know it was a different time with different attitudes – but drugging women for your filthy pleasures is indefensible.

    • Spousal privilege (also called marital privilege or husband-wife privilege is a term used in the law of evidence to describe two separate privileges: the communications privilege and the testimonial privilege. Both types of privilege are based on the policy of encouraging spousal harmony, and preventing spouses from having to condemn, or be condemned by, their spouses. If asked to testify against her husband, she can invoke the spousal privilege, thus cannot be forced to testify.

    • If she has knowledge that has impact it needs to be heard. That’s she’s refusing makes me wonder what she knows. If innocent should be no problem I would have thought

    • He has already admiitted giving women drugs to have sex with them….and has settled out of court with this woman..noone should ever lie to protect another person….and with holding information is actually lying… old law aboutwife doesn’t have to testify shoul be abolished everywhere

    • 50 well coached women…too many for something not to leak out.Criminals mainly get caught because they have to tell some one…or that was the theory when I studied investigation…50…50 women…no someone with infomtion the contrary would be making headlines for their two minutes of fame to discredit one of these women at least…like why didnt they try and find a gravy train earlier.

  3. I doubt if I would under any circumstances condone that behavior, and would be as guilty as the accused if I did !

  4. Agreed. But if he is innocent, all her honest testimony is going to do is nothing but prove him innocent. Right?

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    • You would think so. But is her true testimony going to be able to support his innocence? The big problem here is that the media tend to blow things out of proportion and we (the public) never get the full story so that we can make an informed decision.

  5. Hmm interesting should have thought of that…innocent then definately I just assumed whe had damaging information.

  6. Yes, he may be innocent, in which case both he and his wife would have nothing to hide. The way I see it neither of them would have the need to try to hide behind whatever means to not testify in court. However, if she does know something incriminating against him then isn’t she perverting the course of justice and thus liable to prosecution as well? In which case she’s also trying to save her own hide too.

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    • I hope that no-one has been concealing a crime. If they have they too should be prosecuted.

    • There was a murder here in Melbourne a few years ago, the police know who is responsible, but his wife is sticking by her story that he didn’t leave the house all night …… it must be very frustrating for the police !

  7. One allegation can be ignored.
    50 allegations are a class action.
    If a woman ignores this she is obviously as twisted as he is.

  8. If he is guilty he should be charged like anyone else. But he is innocent until proven guilty, so a good wife would stand by him until the verdict comes in.

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    • Even if she knows he’s broken the law? Not that I’m saying he has; i have no evidence one way or the other. But why is she fithing to hard not to have to testify in court?

    • I think there is some suggestion this person supplied the drugs being used and had knowledge of what he was doing. It’s most likely she is not willing to incriminate herself.

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