Is your grandchild missing these ‘old-fashioned’ values?

Like many grandparents out there, I worry about the world my grandchildren are growing up in. And while I’d never
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Like many grandparents out there, I worry about the world my grandchildren are growing up in. And while I’d never dare say anything to my children, I also worry that their kids are missing out on some of the most important values in life; values we had drummed into us.

Between social media, the disposable, consumerist society of today and the increase of young people becoming completely self-obsessed, I worry that my grandchildren might not become the well-rounded adults the world needs them to be; and that they will suffer because of this.

When I read this great article about a financial planner who had developed a program specifically to address the worries grandparents have about their grandkids and their values, I thought, “Yes, this really could work!”

His idea, which he called Grandparent 2.0, is designed to establish a “tradition of giving” that stretches across the generations.

Here’s how it works: grandparents set aside an amount of money to be given away to charities or causes, then they invite the grandkids to help them spend it. This is where the magic happens. Instead of talking to their grandkids about school, homework and all that other “Grandparent 1.0” stuff, we get to have a constructive, grown-up conversation to work out where the charity money will go.

To do this, grandparents talk to their grandies about what makes them happy and what makes them sad. If butterflies make them happy, you could talk about giving to a nature charity. If a friend not being able to come to the movies makes them sad, you could consider giving money to a charity that supports families in need, and so on.

Elder lawyer, Sandra Reed explains what’s so great about this idea: “Grandparent 2.0 addresses the concerns that grandparents have about values, but it also creates a legacy of family philanthropy that will go on after the grandparents are gone. By establishing an annual meeting, grandparents insure their relevance in their grandchildren’s lives. The grandparents determine a charitable organisation the child would be interested in and promise to give a certain amount to it.

“If the children have some resources of their own, such as allowances or earnings, they are asked to commit to give a small amount themselves.”

Even if they don’t actually contribute their own money, just starting the conversation about giving, caring for others and managing money brings back some of the values that we ‘oldies’ hold so dear and worry will disappear.

Would you try this with your grandchildren? Or do you do something similar already? How do you think they would respond?

  1. this seems sensible, but it must also be made clear that this can’t solve all the problems. time is a better gift than money.

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  3. Luv this idea. Kids get given so much stuff and get taken to the best places, try showing them the real poverty ridden world and the animals in distress.

  4. Lovely idea….we seemed to do this naturally tho….raising wildlife with the grandies……making homemade products n op shopping with emphasis on where the funds go….kids volunteered at camps for disabilities with us n cleaned bird cages at men’s shelters…..we didn’t hav money to giv but time n effort

  5. Love that this has become a subject for discussion. I suspect we grandparents are already weaving notions into our grandies heads –
    Eat all your dinner, some kids don’t get any food!
    Look at people’s eyes when you talk, then you can tell if they are happy or sad.
    That person is crying, I wonder how we could make them feel better?
    When I get really old, I wonder who will now my grass?
    Just the tip of the ice berg here – little people need only to be led to fend to the problem and can usually find solutions …..

  6. Never too young to start either. I think I will start this with my 5 year old granddaughter. One coin for her money box. One for charity.

  7. For many years we sponsored a child through World Vision. Mmy children were part of this and loved to get reports on the progress of the sponsored child. Now my grown up daughter does the same with her children. I definately think it helps them to understand that some people need a helping hand.

  8. Jean  

    You say you wouldn’t dare tell your adult children what you think. Why? Maybe that’s part of the problem – if your adult children can’t accept criticism and advice (given with love and respect) from you, there is a problem in itself. Why do so many people these days give into and indulge their children and then wonder about the outcome?

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