Are you one of the 50 per cent of us who will be forgotten this Christmas? 127

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What better way to spend Christmas day than with your family, sitting down to a lovely lunch filled with laughter and excitement as the time to exchange gifts approaches? With a sinking feeling you try to ignore the fact that your daughter or son-in-law has forgotten to get you anything, not even a card. It makes you think, when did I become someone to be forgotten?

If this has happened to you, you’re not alone. A study reveals that a staggering 51 per cent of mother-in-laws will be overlooked this Christmas with most not receiving a gift or even a season’s greeting from their son or daughters partner. A further 21 per cent of mother-in-laws will be given gifts that cost less than $42 which in today’s economy doesn’t stretch nearly as far as it used to.

It’s not that we expect much, as the report by Debenhams shows, most people care less about the cost of the gift and more about the thought behind it. Christmas should be about family and not the gifts but who says you can’t have both?

In Australia, a study found that 96 per cent of us celebrate Christmas on Christmas day and with 65 per cent agreeing that Christmas is a time to indulge loved ones. Fairfax Media reveals that only 52 per cent of people purchase gifts for “other family members”.

Have you ever found yourself being surrounded by your family at Christmas but somehow still over looked when it comes to gifts or even a simple season’s greeting? Does it secretly bother you or do you brush it off?


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  1. No one does. Have learned through the years to focus on the happy energy of the season…..makes it a bit easier to get through. <3

  2. Yep! Year after year. My husband gave me a box of hankies the first Christmas. After that, Nothing. His excuse? He didn’t know what to get. I have three children. Two never send me anything, but the third never misses a birthday or Christmas. Sadly, he lives in Australia, So won’t be able to see him.

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  3. No way would I expect separate presents from both my son/daughter and my daughter-/son-in-law. And surely the monetary value isn’t important.

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    • I don’t think the amount matters if the gift has been bought with thought and many of us buy what we need or want these days so it is hard for people to know what you have and don’t have.

  4. I don’t even forget to buy my cat a special can of food for Christmas, even though I’m sure he doesn’t care.

  5. We no longer give our children or their spouses presents, and they do not give to us either. We do, however, buy gifts for the grand children. Money saved goes to charity, and we all share a happy Christmas meal together. After all, Christmas is a time to be with loved ones, and, as adults, we can appreciate the true meaning of Christmas.

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    • Same here Maureen, except for the giving to charity but you have given me an idea now

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      • TEAR, (useful gifts) has great suggestions and for me this year it’s a donation to Fred Hollows.

    • Yes same here, only the grand-children, but the parents of those kids always get me something, and not only at christmas either, they both look after them mum through the year too, feel really blessed with them

    • Maureen Hogan. That’s exactly what my family does. Been doing it for few years now and everyone is so relaxed not stressed about the whole Xmas thing

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