What pisses me off: Men! 12

What pisses me off


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What pisses me off? Men, or rather, the fact that most of them cannot be honest.

Before all you blokes get hot under the collar, I did say MOST, not ALL. I have had many an online conversation, with men. One of the first things a man will tell me is that he is unattached. That is before he even knows my marital status.

Why is it so important for a man to be seen as unattached? Why cannot a man admit straight up that he has a partner, wife, mistress or whatever?

Why, why, why?

Is it because he is afraid a woman will not talk to him if he is attached? Is it because his ego likes it better if he is unattached? Why is it so? Can one of you blokes out there enlighten me please?

I like chatting with people of either sex. I do not care if they are in a relationship or not. I like chatting about everyday types of things. Mundane things, interesting things, current affairs, all manner of things.

I get along well with either sex in real life. Why does it have to be so different online? I mean to say, when I chat with an unknown a bloke at a pub or club, he does not immediately tell me his marital status. Why this rush to proclaim unattachment online?

The reason all this dishonesty annoys me is because I have had some really interesting chats with men online. Over the years of chatting, I have come to enjoy some of the online conversations and at some stage have wanted to perhaps meet the other person. To hang out, maybe see a show or a cricket match, whatever he fancies. No strings attached.

At first the other person (man) will be really keen to meet. Plans will be put into place, only to be cancelled at the last moment. Excuses like, my elderly mother had a fall, I cannot leave her. Or, my poor dog has to have an operation, it was hit by a car. Even stranger is, I have been retired for 20 years but just had a call to go to Siberia to do a job no one else can do. I would love to take you but only have one ticket.

Another good one is the ex (oh there is an ex?) is coming to sort out a few things that were not sorted 10 years ago. One bloke I was chatting with told me he was envious of my freedom to do whatever I wished to do. I pointed out that he too could do this as he was unattached. He told me years ago this was the case. The truth came out. Well, it is not that simple he said. I have a partner! Oh, you have a partner? Yes, but we do not get along so thought I did not need to mention this fact 5 years ago.

I lost all respect for this bloke right then and there. I was not looking for a soul mate, I was not after his money (if indeed he had any), I was just looking to meet who I thought was a nice person, to add another friend to my list of friends from around the country. Someone I could call in on for a cuppa or a chat whilst travelling in his area.

I have to admit that I was really pissed off. It was not the fact that he had a partner, it was because he lied. He lied for all those years. Liars, I cannot tolerate. There is no need for it.

Be honest people!

Surely your lives are not so bad that you have to make up crap just so a person will like you?!

Do you feel the same way?

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Jenny Lockhar

  1. I assume you are the person who wrote derogatory comments about men. Try me I will tell you every honest detail of my failed life.

  2. PISSES you off ,, cannot you use ANNOY or a similar word , If you want a PISS use the toilet.

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    • I totally agree with Peter. the Toilet language is not necessary and sets a poor example for younger people. Anyway what annoys me is the holier than thou attitude in the sexist commentary

  3. Lying has been studied extensively and everyone lies in subtle and not so subtle ways, men and women. The way you dress. Is that really you? That story, were there any exaggerations or understatements? Was everything you said to parents, siblings, friends, teachers completely true. Did you go to the police station and tell the truth when you drove too fast, drunk, distracted? Do you really think only men lie? Is that true?

  4. All comments so far have been negative. I cannot comment on chat lines as I have never used them, but I think a lot of people would extend the truth when they are virtually anonymous. I know that for a while I used a very old photo on my profile because I found it hard to accept that I was looking old. It is often hard to be comfortable with yourself as you age.
    Having rambled, I suggest that people look at the circumstances where you say men have lied and really look at ourselves. I have lied by omission I have to admit.

  5. You say ‘MOST, not ALL’ but how many out of the billions of men on the planet are you referring to!

    Oh, only those you talk to on line!!!

    What is it about you that attracts those few lying men?

  6. It seems a common flaw with so many men that they have something to prove to you or that they need to ppint out the error of your ways…its sad really when you think that so often all we want is someone we can chat to in some degree of confidence. Rather so many women will tell you the men they engage with have such ego problems the truth is probably such a scary issue for them they hide as much of their reality from them. Then of course you creative a web of lies which have to be kept going in order to justify your own existence. To me what comes through so often is the complete lack of respect one has to the other.

  7. When ‘most’ women put on make up on their faces is it because they are honest or is it because they want to deceive men, their friends and those on line?
    I met a woman on line whose photo displayed that she was younger than she was. I asked ,”when was the photo taken?”, the answer I got, “recently”…”oh”, I asked, “how recently?”…after a pause…she said, “5 years ago”.
    I understand that what ‘pissed you off’ Jennifer Lockhart, is meeting a man who lied about having another partner BUT, that does not justify you to a derogatory headline regarding ‘most men’. You profoundly exaggerated…a trait of ‘most women’ that is detestable.

  8. Yes I find a lot of men do tell lies and guess what? I have dropped them. I love my independence and freedom to do just as I please. Not sexual freedom as one stupid woman wanted to know if it was sexual freedom. Dear God does it have to be sexual freedom. Cannot a person feel free to do exactly what they want without being controlled by either a woman or man. If i want to travel I do it it in a group and I have loved every minute of it. If I feel like talking I talk if I do not feel like talking I don’t. In fact sexual demands with my husband broke my marriage and host of other things. It bores me to be in a situation where I am made to feel obligated. Both men and women have a lot to learn. I lead an interesting life with out man, woman or child. My sons are grown men I certainly hope they do NOT tell lies because that is how they were brought up.

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    Yes, men. How they can lie, and get away with it until a family member tells you what is going on. I remember, just sold up and walker out, as my children were already pass the age of consent.
    I prefer my companion to be a Dog? loyalty, loving and everything else that I can’t think of at this stage.

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