Sixty something: I am Murphy’s Law 35



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Hello sixty somethings. The first month of the year is already over – time flies when you’re having fun so they say! I’m still waiting for the fun to start…2016 was supposed to be the start of good times for me. I was over the bulk of my illness and planning my year in Italy. I had started to get rid of the clutter I had accumulated over the years and get my affairs in order. Then it hit. You know Murphy’s Law? I AM Murphy’s law. Due to circumstances I couldn’t fix, my Italy trip is cancelled. Oh I can go for a holiday but to live for a year – not happening.

Now to be allowed to collect your pension in Italy, you need to visit Centrelink. Australia and some other countries have an agreement with each other. If you meet the criteria you can collect your pension indefinitely in another country. I did all the research and the visits with Centrelink and got the ball rolling. I won’t go into the reasons I can’t go but I was devastated and like a baby, cried for two days. Now before anyone says anything, it had nothing to do with Centrelink and I was and am still eligible from their side of things. I have no idea what I am going to do now, but I will take a small break from having to do anything and then put my thinking cap back on. Not a good start to 2016.

Of course you all know that Fiji didn’t go as planned, but that’s life. I did catch a virus which the doctor says was probably caused from the plane air conditioning and a virus is a no-no for me with my lung problems, but I have finally shaken all but a slight cough so can’t complain there. I think I will risk it though and fly again if I get the chance.

In my quest to beat Murphy’s Law, I have stayed a little quiet the past couple of weeks, but this morning I decided “what the hell”. I need to take chances, I need to do new things, I need to push myself and I need to stop stressing over things I don’t seem to be able to change. My sons have still not spoken to me in months for reasons obvious only to them, but I can’t force them and though it is easier said than done, I will try to get on with this year not letting them pull me down. I will find something else besides Italy to keep me interested. I have my degree now and am a little more knowledgeable than I was (so it seems) so that’s a good thing. I dream of becoming a politician and fighting for our rights. That is probably not realistic but perhaps I can come up with another way to fight. 

Last night I watched Lleyton Hewitt. He had a pretty good idea that the odds were against him, but it didn’t stop him from trying. He is such a great ambassador for Australia. At 62, I could learn a lot from him, especially in the never-giving-up department. Maybe one day I will meet him and let him know how much he influenced my decision this morning to reach for the stars.

My ex husband left Tasmania yesterday. For some reason I felt a sense of loss. We have not been together for a few years now, but it was like the end of an era for me. Like a door had been ajar and now was slammed shut. This morning I look at it for what it is – an opportunity to move on, properly.  

So 2016 hasn’t started like I had imagined, but I am going to fight the “if anything can happen it will happen to me” syndrome. I will move forward with positive thoughts and an image of what I want my life to be. I will keep pushing the boundaries and find things to do and ways to do them. I will not let my age, my health or my circumstances get in the way. There will be times when I falter but that’s why I have you guys. I’m sure you will encourage me, laugh with me, cry with me and some will tell me what a jerk I am, but you will all keep me going. Now is the time to do, not procrastinate. This is my time, your time, our time!

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Fran Spears

Born in 1953. Came to Hobart from the north west coast of Tassie to be closer to my son as I have mild chronic bronchitis. Mild and chronic in same sentence – even that makes me laugh. Have just completed and passed my diploma in Public Relations. Love to write and have lead a reasonably interesting life. My motto: "Frankly my dear, I don't give a damn!"

  1. I’m sorry you feel that way. If I could suggest something to help you it maybe to lower your goals a little and go forward one small step at a time. Everything does not have to happen at the same time. You still have plenty of time to enjoy your life. Learn to relax a little and take time to smell the roses as the saying goes. Hope this helps just a little.

  2. Thanks for sharing Fran, I like yourself know all those feelings and at times I find it a bit overwhelming to say the least. However I’m not one to ever give up and although the past few years I have been plagued with health issues, I’m not about to give up anytime soon so I have just renewed my Passport and hope to do some travel with some friends. I won’t be needing my Passport for my first trip though as I’m planning on a trip to Tassie for about 10 days to catch up with a friend who has been here for a week and due to illness didn’t get much time until yesterday to see her.

  3. I believe it is all in the attitude or outlook. If you think that way then that’s the way it will bee

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    • Think what way Dawn? I jyst tell it like it happens. I NEVER think that’s how it will happen. It just does.

  4. Another great read Fran, you have not an easy time of things but hopefully you are over the worst of a very bad run and moving forward into a great future, stay positive , life has a lot to offer you sweetie, you just got to roll with it. Consider your ex leaving Tassie as a sign that you have a clear path ahead of you for a better future

  5. I can feel your frustration and I can fully commiserate about life’s twists and turns. Sounds like a cliche but one step at a time. I recently copped a big loss which has turned into a big gain, so I hope some good things happen for you soon

  6. Keep your chin up Fran, you are a fighter, keep fighting oh and Fran keep writing, I really enjoy reading your articles

  7. When it feels like I’m walking through treacle every day, I set a small goal to do a certain suite of things, then I count those and the extras I achieved each day. It keeps me going until I have more power.

  8. You are a brave lady , That is upsetting getting your hopes up about going to Italy, but maybe life may have been difficult for you there for a whole year. As we age flexibility can be difficult to manage, in a new culture, plus countless living problems. Personally, I couldn’t think of anything worse at my age coping with a new culture, services etc in a different language. I also have asthma problems so I emphasize with you. I hope your family relationship problems improve too.

  9. 😁 can’t open the link?
    Haha Murphys Law! Wrote the above after trying several times to open the link, then viola it opens!

  10. Take a Bus trip around Australia or to parts of Australia …maybe with AAT Kings( no I dont work for them )…Take a Cruise around Australia ….. meet new people & discover this fabulos wonderful land WE live in…I have meet so many lovely people on trips….heading to Kimberlys & Broome in September…….for my new adventure . Australia is such a wonderful place to explore!!! Hope you find peace & Joy soon..

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    • What wonderful advice. I should do that myself.

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