On being a solo older female traveller 63



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Do you remember those travel dreams you had when you were young?

Hopefully, you were able to fulfil many of them and have some wonderful memories of holidaying on the Greek Islands or shopping at Harrods in London. For many women they think their travel dreams are over, just because they hit the “magic 60 mark”

As you age, you start to understand there is “so little time but so much to do” and being an “older” female has some restrictions often placed on us by society and family.
It is about time that we start to think of ourselves as being an inspiration to others, not only to women of our generation but to our daughters and granddaughters. I like to think of myself as a stylish, strong and smart 60 year old and with a little planning I can do just about as much as I did when I was an 18-year-old gap student who set out to see the world.

Women like to travel for several reasons: memories, adventure, romance, or just to connect with other people and better understand humanity. I travel because I love to learn and have fun experiences.
Travelling with someone you get along with is wonderful, but let’s face it: Mr Wonderful may not have the desire, time or money to travel with you!

I am always surprised at the comments I receive from friends who want to travel, but feel they are unable to: school, jobs, commitments, husbands, children, cats and dogs, no one to go with etc. Each friend indicating, “I wish I could BUT…”
Why then, do the women I meet at the airport or on the road all say, “I wish I had done this years ago”?

The solution is pretty simple. The most important thing you have to do is take that initial step and say, “I am going to travel, I may have to travel by myself, but I will do this”. Your trip does not have to mean going on a long, extended overseas holiday; it can be something short and within your area at first, but you have to get used to the idea that unless you make it happen, it will not happen. There is no time like the present and remember, “so many things to do and so little time left”. If you know you may get some resistance from loved ones, start out by saying, “I want to go on a vacation, I would love to see…”

Ask your family about places they have been and get them involved in selecting something with you. Most people who have not travelled only see the outside world via the news on TV, and for that item to be broadcast-worthy, it most often involves bad news. But keep in mind, the chances of something tragic happening while you are on your trip are pretty slim, especially when you consider how may solo people are traveling everyday around the world.
Be strong and don’t waiver. Going to school on the first day was pretty hard too, but we all managed to compete that part of our lives. Consider making the decision to travel, to be another part of life’s journey.
There will be times when your heart nearly jumps out of your chest, but most times it will be because you got to see, The Grand Canyon, The Eiffel Tower in Paris, or the Coliseum in Rome.

I remember learning about Egypt as a small child at one teacher school in outback New South Wales. I tried to imagine how big the Pyramids would be compared to the large old, gum trees outside the school house window and got into trouble for not paying attention in class. My dream was to one day travel the world and sit on one of those big rocks that made up the Pyramids in Egypt. I had so much to do and heaps of time on my side. When I did get to sit on one of those big rocks, I thought back to my time at school and said to myself:
“If I can do this then anyone can!”

So make it happen now, there’s so little time, so much to do!


What is your ultimate travel destination? What is holding you back? Tell us about it below.

Penny Frederiksen

My name is Penny and I'm searching for a cure for a bug I picked up. Beware, it is often contagious ...it's called "travelling"! I live in rural Australia on a cattle property and my love affair with travel and photography started at a very young age..the National Geographic Magazines at my local dentist! Travel makes me step outside my comfort zone and get a better prospective of the world around me, and yes, if you hang around me, you might just catch the bug as well.

  1. I think this is an incredibly dangerous thing to do. A woman alone without a mans protection would not be for me. If I was single I would have made an attempt to find a male travelling companion, companion only though.

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    • sure lets get a man, for protection, but what if he does not want to go? and how good would he be against a gun or gang, look what happened in Sydney , lets not go to to cafes ever?

    • Hi Julie,
      I have been travelling on my own for most of my life. Drove 15,000 miles around the US in a campervan and had a blast. It’s no more dangerous than walking across the road. Anything can happen anywhere. I’m now 60 years old and heading off to Europe and The UK for 6 months in 2015 on my own. Don’t limit yourself by fear. And not being disrespectful, I doubt if a man could protect me – but a lovely notion!

    • HHHi Julie
      My name is Lina and I’ve been travelling for many years solo. I don’t really need a man to travel with as I’m very fit, active and able to protect myself and frankly there are few men I’d travel with. I’ve travelled through India, Nepal, Asia and Australia on my own and I find it liberating. I respect your opinion however some of us gals just like to be my ourselves. Happy travels to you!

  2. I have travelled half of my journeys solo. The main reason, other people’s commitments and my lack of long term planning. An opportunity arises, I think about it, read a little, then I am encaptured. Speak to people and will invite. Generally, they have their own commitments and do not arise to the occasion. My manager is sympathetic to my age and needs.
    So be it, end of January I’m off to Niseko, Sapporo, Tokyo. Yes I have friends there though will tour a little by myself. I refuse to live my life in fear and to date have not ever felt uncomfortable. I have toured Europe for 7 weeks alone. Mostly people are kind and helpful. If this is want to do, don’t die wondering. The world is still a beautiful place.

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    • My feelings exactly Trevalyn. Enjoy your travels!

  3. You go girl, life is for living and letting fear of the unknown paralyze you and keep you at home is sad. The silly thing is none of us get out alive! Common sense is what is needed……..enjoy

  4. I travel alone …. Was nervous the first time but am now fine. I have found someone will always help on those occasions when I needed it. If on tour I always pay extra for a single room as I am used to my own space being a widow for 11 years but I love meeting new people young and old. I do my homework and listen to all the safe travel advice. Went to South Africa this year and off to London and Portugal next year.

  5. I went by myself on a trip to Europe, and it was one of the best trips I have ever taken. Enjoyed myself thoroughly, and appreciated being able to go where I wanted to and see what I wanted to. I am planning a trip to Vietnam next year now and cant wait. My husband doesnt want to travel overseas but totally supports me and my travel plans, and loves to hear about my adventures when I get home. Just because you afre married doesnt mean you are tied at the hip.

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    • Just went to Vietnam on my own. Fantastic. Went from North to South, used a tour company based in Hanoi who were very flexible, and also chose great hotels for me. Would do it again. Going to Cambodia next, then northern Thailand.

    • Been to Vietnam & Cambodia but can’t really recommend it unless you are young and adventurous…:-)

  6. Over the last few years, I have travelled a fair bit on my own. I went to Russia last year, and Vienna and Slovakia before that. I am never afraid on my own and I find it liberating. No one to consult with; to worry about their opinions; lovely!

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