My son’s kidney transplant journey 2



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Steve was smiling as he lifted his foot up for me to see.

“My toenails are pink again mum, look.” Sure enough they were. We ended up laughing like a couple of children. It was certain proof the new kidney was functioning well, but I laughed even more when he said, “And guess what? I had a pee today and it felt so good.”

My big adult son had not told me he had urinated for a good many years. It was one aspect of the kidney failure and dialysis we had never discussed. Until that moment I had not realised the full extent of the problem. Now, here he was as pleased as punch that he had achieved what we all take so much for granted: the simple daily task of urinating! Healthy pink toenails and the ability to pee whenever he wanted to go (and to actually want to!) was a cause for celebration to Steve now. 

Unless anyone has lived through the experience, I doubt they could possibly understand the emotions involved. The thoughts that terrify you, the words you dare not speak. The hopeless and helplessness, that pervade your every waking moment. Mum is supposed to be able to ‘kiss it better’ for her child but my own kidney was not compatible! What sort of Mother am I? I could do nothing to help my son. Then came the hope. But the fear again surfaces, as Steve was prepared for the operation. But dare I let the hope surface? Finally it was over! My son smiled as he came around from the anaesthetic.

‘Everything went well”. The doctor said.  The words “Thank you’ seemed so inadequate, but they were all I had. 

Within a few days he was looking so much better and soon after Steve came home from the hospital, he was back driving his car and playing his beloved guitar. Making music and singing. Telling jokes and laughing. I had my boy back! 

I will be forever grateful to the donor of Steve’s new kidney and his family. What a difference his ultimate sacrifice made to, not only my Son’s life, but many others also. A ‘Gift of Love! A gift of life’. My prayers were answered, my son is recovering!

I know the family of the kidney donor will never know my son, but I like to think, they could maybe read this little story and know that because of their truly unselfish action, despite their own grief, they gave the gift of life, not only to my son that day, and everyone one of them bless them every day. Yes, there are many times when, ’Thank you’ really is inadequate! This is one of them! God bless you all.


The kidney lasted 12 years. Steve lived his life to the full creating his music and used each day with love. He was grateful for every day his new kidney gave him. So many times giving thanks to the donation of life.

Just months ago his kidney began to fail. The doctors did all they could for Steve. It was back to the dialysis and back on the treadmill of 12 years ago. The fatigue, depression, and the monster but life-giving dialysis machine. My son-in-law was tested and compatible to donate his kidney, but by the time all tests were finalised Steve’s health had deteriorated so badly he was too weak to take the operation. My son passed away just before Christmas, but not before he told me once again he was so grateful for the 12 extra years he had been blessed with. I add my thanks to all donors who save so many lives. God Bless you all. 

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Violet Apted

My name is Violet and I have two daughters and one son who have given me five adorable grandchildren. I have been freelance writer and tutor at U3A creative writing for 8 years as well as Writing forum host on 50plus website for 10 years and am now retired. I enjoy writing, using the computer and music and my dream would be to take a world cruise, as I have a love of the sea and also to write a bestseller! I’ve travelled to Egypt, Asia, Europe, USA, the UK and Africa but am originally from Sussex and lived in Kent before I moved to Australia in 1976 where I live in Brisbane. I am a contributing author in the book ‘FORGETMEKNOTS FROM THE FRONT PORCH’ published in USA last year by Obadiah Press. I have completed my first novel, a Murder abduction story and it is now published. All my books are available on as well as FaceBook. My favourite writing would be Children’s stories and I have written many for my grandchildren. Two are now published!

  1. Thanks for your story, Violet. My son has just this week received a kidney and pancreas from a most generous donor. He, also has spent the last couple of years not peeing and many long hours attached to a machine to clean his blood. I understand fully your statement about ‘mum kissing it all better’ and to not be able to do that has been a ‘crime’ of mine for the almost 30 years since he was first diagnosed with type 1 diabetes. Thank God for the generosity and compassion of life giving donors. We need so many more. Anyone interested in donating organs go to with a heartfelt thankyou from my son and myself.

  2. Thank you for your story – Having travelled this road and nothing was according to the text books, I can relate so much to all these stories. For my husband it was a huge THANK YOU to an awesome neighbour who so willingly gave his kidney to him. It was a rough journey initially and we were not without many trials and tribulations, but he was blessed with 9 and a half years of not being connected to that Dialysis machine. The restrictions of Dialysis are huge and the loneliness of 6 hours on the machine every second day are not easy either but certainly give improved health to the patient. I thank all those special people who donate their organs and give life to many others. THANK YOU is never enough for the gift of life and the huge change of life. For our family we will forever be grateful and remember our wonderful donor and how willingly he gave this tremendous gift.

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