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The entire country grieved with Melissa Little earlier this year after the tragic deaths of her husband and their two young boys.

In January, Damian Little shot and killed the couple’s sons Koda, 4, and Hunter, nine months, before driving their car off the wharf in Port Lincoln, South Australia, and taking his own life.

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It was later revealed that Damien had been suffering from depression and had struggled with the illness for a number of years.

Now, Melissa has written an emotional letter detailing how she has tried to deal with her grief and how she wants her husband to be remembered.

“As I tried to deal with each day, as well as try to understand that no one could have helped my husband with his private and personal battles, I had to face the world again,” she said in the letter printed in The Advertiser.

“The tragic event that took place in January has left me broken hearted. The loss … has left me with only precious memories to hold. No matter how I chose to deal with my grief, not a single day goes by without my boys in my thoughts.

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“The more I tried to understand the ‘why’ behind the tragic events, the more I realised I couldn’t have changed things. So, one day at a time, I tried to find strength to rebuild my life.”

She said she had walked the Kokoda Track a few months ago — after which Koda was named — as they had always dreamed about doing it as a family when he was old enough.

“I felt a strong presence of my boys, they were there with me on the track, which got my though each day,” she wrote.

“My precious boy Hunter never got the opportunity to take his first steps so I continued to take small steps forward for him. I could also hear Koda cheering me on when the going got tough. Hopefully I made them proud.”

While the public was initially outraged by Damien’s actions, the revelations about his mental state opened up the dialogue about the need to have more support and help available for those suffering from mental illness.

Only days after the tragedy first occurred, Melissa, 30, released a statement asking people not to blame her husband.

“Words cannot express the pain I have felt since [the incident],” the primary school teacher wrote.

“Damien was my childhood sweetheart who became my husband. He was also a father who loved his two children very much.

“My wish is for Damien to be remembered as a well-respected and valued member of our family and community.’

Do you have a message of support for Melissa? Do you think we need to do more for those suffering from depression and mental illness?

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  1. Hi Melissa I’m so sorry for the grief that you are going through. Depression is so hard for people to understand, it’s not something a person is making up it is real and each day is a struggle. We need to give a helping hand to those that struggle with depression and not turn our backs to them. Like you said we need to make baby steps and make the most of each day. Melissa you are a very strong lady and you show so much love for your boys and husband although he has changed your life completely. Stay strong and help share the message that more is needed in the mental health sector. Much love and blessings to you. 💐💐

  2. Hi Melissa, I’m so sorry for your loss, depression is a terrible thing. I don’t know how you survive something like this, I have to say I have no idea how you felt or are feeling. The truly amazing thing is that you are still here and recovering slowly, day by day. Your little boys are with you in spirit I’m sure. I wish you all the best for your future and hope you find peace. Much love and light, and may your God go with you x

  3. Hi Melissa, you are an amazing woman. I don’t think I could forgive anyone if they had done that to my children. You have a very special strength and where you draw that strength from is a place that I don’t know about and hope I never have to find it.
    Good luck with your future and I hope you manage to find some happiness along the way.

  4. Melissa i dont know how you have coped with your loss of your children and your husband. I hope that what or whoever you have turned to for support and love continues to be there for you. I hope that the future holds a happier time for you.

  5. Melissa no one will ever understand what you have been put through and remaining sane enough to go on with life. The brain is such a delicate instrument and there is a very thin line between sanity and insanity and yes much more needs to be done in the research of depression.

    Keep the memories of your family forever in your heart but don’t let this change you from the caring, loving and strong person you are and know they are safe and nothing more can ever hurt them again.

  6. Dear Melissa ,what lovely words you wrote , anything that helps people deal with this depression , will help God bless you my dear Ihope you find happiness again some day , you are so young , very caring strong &a beautiful lady , your boys are being cared for by Daddy now
    Love to you , stay strong ,xx

  7. Depression is awful I have experienced it in some depth after years of surgery and desperate to get back on my feet I went into a depressed spiral. I could not pull myself out I was isolated and could not do anything and did not want to do anything. I did not want to be that way but could not help it I had no help except for medication I was given. It did not really work but it was better than not having it. I cried a lot and put on weight, at times I just wanted to die. But I could never ever even at my worst , contemplate taking another life to pay for my suffering. I do blame him those two little boys had no life he took it from them. I got myself off the tablets and turned myself around it was not easy but I did it. I still some bad days but now I can cope I have learned how to do that.

  8. Hi Melissa I can’t imagine what you are going through you sound like a loving caring woman who misses her family. Depression is a terrible thing and more should be done to help people who suffer from it. You poor husband must have been at the end of his rope to do what he did . I’m sure he will be looking after your two little boys in the after life. I hope you find peace and can move on with your life one day and find happiness and have another family . May God Bless and keep you xx

  9. Hi Melissa, my heart breaks for your pain, you are an amazing strong woman!!!! Cannot imagine how you have survived this tragedy. If there is a God He will heal your soul. Keep strong we all love you!!!!!

  10. Hi melissa , IFeel for you and only time will ease your heartache nobody knows what your hubby was feeling at that sad time ,I wish you peace and happiness strength and lots of love from those around you

  11. So Sad, Depression is a” Bastard of a thing” tricking you into believing that life is not worth living nomatter how much love and support they have .. keep them locked in a special place in your heart .

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