Women’s needs in their 60s 7



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What a modern era we live in: the busyness of life, the hectic to and fro of commitments and the relentless battles that seem to pull us from pillar to post. Technology, accessibility and convenience rule our days and are designed to take the guesswork out of life.

As a woman, you are still the giver of life, the nurturer, the stability of a family, and the ‘go to’ person for all. Is the modern lifestyle serving you well, or is it merely an extra inconvenience?

Unfortunately, we have not evolved to a point where we can care for all without taking on some degree of their pain and turmoil. A woman’s genetic makeup is designed to creatively and efficiently solve the problems of others. Whether it is access to food, shelter and love, or whether it is problem solving in the corporate arena, the daily tasks we perform may alleviate issues for others but they also leave an indelible imprint on us as we lunge into solving them.

In current times, a woman’s ‘fight or flight’ response can be confused and conflicted easily. The conveniences we have only exacerbate the feelings we have. Technology can bring about a more hurried approach to fixing people’s problems and that increases the stress we put on ourselves. Accessibility now governs that we have no ‘down time’. We cannot switch off as our kids, partners and workmates can contact us on social media, by mobile or email at any given time. Convenience now herds us to unhealthy living practices (often ending with weight gain) and the social stigma of the ‘housewife/nurturer’ is leading us to look for the ‘easy way out’.

The modern woman is under vast pressures and as a result, her stress response is kicking in. The fight or flight response is warped to turn us into overweight, unhealthy people. Our tasks are not lessened, so now we are busy, overweight people who are stressed about it all.

There is hope! To truly master the modern way of life, we need to set boundaries. Women can still be the nurturers without being a social pariah. We can still break the glass ceiling without cutting ourselves to ribbons. We are resilient and dedicated, we are strong and reliable but without boundaries, and we are overwhelmed and stressed.

So how do we set boundaries, use modern conveniences to our advantage and look after ourselves at the same time? We need to make sure that we plan, pre-empt, perform and prevail. The 4 P’s of life that any modern woman can navigate and master. This will help her reach her goals and in terms of weight loss: win the battle.


Plan your day and that of those around you. You are not doing it for them; you are doing it for yourself. To be specific, you want to be healthy so you plan the meals of all that you care for (including yourself). Take the guesswork out of mealtimes to avoid putting on any extra kilos and to avoid the pitfalls of stress-feeding and emotional eating. Plan your work meals to avoid steeping off your health plan. Plan your day and integrate your family members days so that you don’t run out of time to care for yourself.



Pre-empt what could happen in the course of a day to throw you off your schedule. Do you have a couple of contingency plans? Reduce your stress levels by having a solid ‘fall back’ schedule. Maybe allow extra time for some activities. For example, kids always seem to be on a ‘go slow’ when you’re in a hurry to get to school on time. Allow extra time for them to get up and ready. If they don’t use it, you have some extra time for yourself. Workmates may take a little longer to complete a task that you are waiting on. Take extra time in the schedule to allow for inconveniences. Have a couple of odd jobs for yourself to do that can be slotted into this time, stay productive. With meal planning, pre-empt who in your family likes what, who does not and some easy options so that all are happy (especially you). Maybe you can substitute an ingredient in a meal for a fussy eater? Maybe you can encourage independence and show a family member how to construct their own healthy meals?



Always perform each task set. If something happens to make that impossible, re-evaluate what happened. Can you shuffle your schedule without causing more issues? Is there anything you can delegate to reduce the stress on yourself? Performance is all about action. Action leads to accomplishment. Accomplishment leads to success. Success leads to happiness. Happiness leads to health.



You must end each day with a scorecard of ‘wins’. Each day you will prevail. This way your health, your weight, your happiness are all focussed on and cared for.


In the modern era, too many women are stressed, overweight and unhealthy. Take the 4 P challenge and start 2015 with attention on you. You are important and valuable, you are priceless and irreplaceable. Let’s reduce our stress and harness the inner power we possess.


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Magic Barclay

Magic has opened her practice to accommodate people from all walks of life who are intent on losing excess kilograms and regaining their lives. She uses a combination of knowledge, empathy and a hands on approach to help her clients not only lose the weight and to integrate weight loss techniques with family life, but also to address root causes as to why they put the weight on. www.magicbarclay.com

  1. You turn Meadia off and put it on when you stop for a drink or food. I do not put it on during every break but I can chance for messages from Children and Gtandchildren and read or do other things in some of my stops.

  2. Mike here-women want, some of this, most of that, they want all of this & none of the other. But be wary chaps because it will all change tomorrow. Thanks Billy.

  3. I really question the value of this article to those of us over sixty. In our age group very few of us are needing to gets children for and to school,on time, plan the families daily tasks and meals etc as mentioned in this article. Generally our families are now independent and living their own lives and they are the ones getting the kids to school. This article advocates a very busy full day with no down time – not healthy for any age group. We all need to have time out during the day, be it five minutes or a little longer. Just reading this plan was exhausting and there were no weight loss ideas as highlighted in the header. Just a waste of data.

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    • Exactly not relevant to most over sixties and nothing like the intro.

  4. Reading this and thinking about the craft group I just came from I can picture some of the craft ladies doing this. Why? Because a lot of them are either raising grandchildren or babysitting on a regular basis. A lot of them are looking after grandchildren after school and full time on school holidays. Some of these ladies are in their 70’s and some bring their grandchildren with them to craft. Society is certainly changing.

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    • Why are so many older people bringing up or so regularly looking after grandchildren? Is it cost of childcare? Is it broken homes? Is it selfish parents?

      There was a time (my era) when the extent of grandparents’ care was occasional evening babysitting or for working mothers, the odd day a child was sick. I would no more have expected my parents to do free childcare than fly to the moon and they certainly would not have expected me to ask. I worked full time and paid child care for three boys. My step-d-i-l is in her 50s and is giving up her one day off a fortnight to babysit her twin grandchildren to save her daughter – who is a GP with a large income – money. She also has them regularly at weekends while the parents are building a big new house – because it’s “easier” for them. Am I being unfair? It seems there a re a lot more selfish and greedy young people around today and parents who give in to their demands.

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      • I agree jaywalker. I did not envisage my retirement being taken up with caring for children or grandchildren but that seems to be the expectation. I have to say there might be some disappointed younger people in my life because I am all for tough love and learning to cope with consequences of decisions made. Of course there will be a helping hand on occasions too, but no free childcare or cleaning lady !!

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