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Last week while at lunch with my dearest friends, I looked around and noticed something. We were once young mums, then we were young middle-aged women, but we always were youthful in the way we spoke, dressed and acted. For the first time I looked around and realised that some of my friends seemed to have gotten “old”.

At 62, we’re the furthest thing from old. We’re all still working, we’re all going on wonderful holidays, we love to be cheeky, laugh and have fun. But suddenly the bright shades and bold prints have been changed to dark greys and navys and the hair and nails that were kept tidy and fabulous have been left to look unkempt and uncared for.

The question I have, is why?

Where did this change come from and why did it happen? I once saw fabulous outfits with shorts, skirts, little strappy tops (which looked fabulous), beautiful blouses and fitted pants – none of it was inappropriate in fact they all always look incredible. But when I looked around I saw ¾ pants that were baggy, unflattering, boxy shirts, ¾ arms as well and safe sandals.

It could be a confidence thing. At some point or rather we all look at the things we once wore and wish that we could do so again. But are we looking at our clothes like that far too young? While we’re living these fun-filled active lives and we’re blessed to be healthy, we should be embracing the opportunities to dress “young” and steer clear of the ageing stereotypes.

The fashion industry is rife with stereotypes when it comes to age and fashion. Just read the article about Twiggy and her take on the “what to wear in your 20s, what to wear in your 40s and what to wear in your 60s headlines” saga.

To be frank, it could be the entire fashion industry that is to blame. “Older” brands market to younger women with the ridiculous notion that “old” is about 50. So should we perhaps start looking at the younger brands?

It’s a tricky situation to be in – we don’t want to wear inappropriate things but we want to dress youthful, fun and active, because lets face it – we are!


Have you ever noticed the same phenomenon in your friends? Why do you think it happens? Do you think there isn’t enough self-love amongst women in our age group? Or is it the style industry to blame? Share your thoughts in the comments below…

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  1. I dress in what I like and although I wear 3/4 length pants sometimes, they are fitted and not wide at bottom. Last summer I dressed in bold bright colors because it was fashionable, for what age I didn’t care. I liked the yellows and oranges etc.

  2. I know what you mean. I try avoiding dressing and looking old. I love the bright colours. The trouble is that the fashion industry doesn’t cater for 70 year olds in a very flattering way.

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    • I think it depends where you shop. I am 71 and find lots of really nice, trendy, inexpensive clothes in the chain stores around Melbourne. Having a young, 30yo daughter is really helpful, too – not only can I go to her for advice, I also manage to ‘score’ quite a few of her cast-offs!!

  3. We have plenty of choice in clothes. The grey colours are in fashion ATM. My group of 61yr olds are still fashionable and all still at work

  4. I wear clothes that I like. Not what some fashion guru tells me is appropriate.
    I colour my own hair pink and blue and green and purple and yellow and red; or whatever colour takes my fancy at the time.
    In my opinion anyone who dresses or acts in a way that they think society wants them to, only has themselves to blame if they are not happy with the outcome.

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  5. i love colour & will continue to wear it. some shops that cater for the older lady do not always stock what I want so look for bargains at the smaller shops. buy what you like & ignore negative comments.

  6. I never have dressed what the norm was and at 67 I am still doing the same except longer. My friends would vouch for that. Look at Dame Judith Denech that is my style

  7. In summer I wear long dresses with no sleeves in all colours including black, and with sandals, because they are comfortable and cool. Sometimes I wear a long white linen straight skirt with a pretty coloured top. I rarely wear 3/4 pants because I feel the heat too much – and yes I have noticed that most of women my age do wear 3/4 pants, but they all look pretty smart.

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    • I have been wondering what we should be wearing under the dresses as we get older . Have days of slips and petticotes gone ?

  8. I wouldn’t wear strappy tops in a fit. I prefer to cover my cellulite thanks. It’s nothing to do with dressing old. It’s about dressing in a way that makes ME feel confident and comfortable. I will wear 3/4 sleeves and pants, I find them comfortable too. I don’t think anybody, including the writer should dictate how any of us dress. We can wear what we like. Maybe her friends just feel comfortable in those clothes and that’s why they wear them.

  9. I also love to dress in pretty bright and flattering clothes, it was when I was a busy mum with youngish children that I found myself dressing ‘daggy’, I still try to avoid the ‘mutton dressed as lamb syndrome’ but we could all do with a bit of colour in our lives

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