What Pisses Me Off: Dummies and babies 357

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What pisses me off? Parents who use dummies! A family friend of mine has a grandchild who still has a dummy and they are 4 years old. It basically says to me that you do not want your child to be heard. If that’s so, why did you have them? Your pacifying your child in every sense of the word and they’re 4 for God’s sake! Stop babying them.

I frankly think it’s sheer laziness when I see parents shoving a dummy into a child’s mouth. They can’t be bothered parenting or asking them what’s wrong so they just plug them up! I was at the shops recently and a lady’s two children had dummies and were walking alongside her, pulling them out every few minutes to say something. If your child can freely remove their dummy from their own mouth, don’t you think it’s time to get rid of it? Dummies build dependence and even my friend’s grandchild has trouble sleeping without it and cries when she isn’t given it.

I just hate seeing parents pop a dummy in to calm them down instead of assessing the kid’s needs. It’s not a magic product that is supposed to be your go-to at every sign of trouble and annoyance! I had a look around for some facts to support my view against dummies and EssentialBaby.com.au says, “When used past the age of 12 months, dummies have been linked to speech problems in some children who may not have enough opportunity to babble and enunciate when younger and who talk with their dummies in their mouth as they get older”. Dummies have also been linked to dental problems such as overbites and cross bites when used til a child is 3 or 4! Ha!

When my children were growing up, I found other ways to ‘pacify’ them. I would nurse them in my arms or simply just talk to them, even if they were a baby. I didn’t want my kids to have to be plugged with a plastic nipple, telling them to shut up so I could do something else. I was a parent and I’d own it – I’d sit awake nursing them or calmign t I get wildly annoyed when I see the carelessness out there. Babies are not toys, they are humans and they have every right to cry and whinge, just as you do. Maybe teach them how to behave properly and they will!


What do you think? Do dummies piss you off? Should parents take more responsibility instead of resorting to a dummy? Or is it perfectly okay? Tell us below.

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  1. I had 5 children and none of them had dummies

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    • Short term dummy use is fine. Our first son did not get a dummy, thumb sucking resulted well into primary school !! And it was hard to stop the thumb sucking, also he need orthodontic work to straighten his teeth as a result!!! A very expensive episode.

  2. They are NOT needed.They are dirty jermy discussing things.And the parents just pick them up wipe them on thier own clothes and stick it back in babies mouths.

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  3. I say mind your own business it is know ones but the families to deal with

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    • I don’t like it either, I feel sorry for the kids. I had a friend who put everything she could onto her kids dummies, glucose, honey, syrup anything at all so they would take the dummy, shut up and leave her alone. The eldest boy had severe dental surgery before he was four.

      My friend had a lot of anxiety. It was my place to support her in that. Not criticize her parenting.

    • Not for me to judge either, according to my mother (I’m now 72) I sucked on a dummy for security till I was five, then heaved it in to the fireplace one day and it was never mentioned till I grew up and started my own family. Mum used her knowledge to help me with the decision to give my first child a dummy. Didn’t cause any problems there and so babies and life continued lol.

    • I had 5 children, the eldest now 44, and they each had a dummy, some not for very long, but it soothed them, and yes I did spend hours nursing them as well. One of my sons was born with kidney problems and in hospital for weeks on end, and his dummy was something he wouldn’t let go of, it gave him comfort when I wasn’t there. Finally one day, aged about 4, he threw it away. All children are different, and you really shouldn’t try to judge others because of your dislike for dummies. You would be like one of my old maiden Aunts when I had my first child, full of advice, knowing nothing.

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      • Well said Jen! I don’t like 3 and 4 year olds outside with dummies either but you do what’s right for you and really nobody elses business

    • Dummies are okay by me. Better to suck a dummy than suck than their thumb. According to dentists, a child sucking their thumb can have a detrimental effect on their teeth.

    • All of my six children had dummies like all kids each child found comfort with them . One of my daughters was badly burnt at five and the lass across the road a dc sister was fortunately at home and came to our aid my daughter was screaming and our friend scooped up a dummy and gave it too her,. I tried to get her to part with it but was told by the Drs at PMH TO leave her alone and let her have it . The specialist said the comfort she got from her dummy helped. Cut her hospital time immensely and on her discharge she happily gave it to the nurse to have for any other sick kids .

  4. No dummies in my family or my children’s children’s family. Each to their own after all I am not the parent of someone else’s child.

  5. I find dummies very handy devices for sanitys sake.

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    • I agree Sara, very handy at times. Beats thumb sucking! 3 of my 4 had dummies and they stayed under their pillows til bedtime, all had were gone by 2 yrs. No 4 was a different story, tried every shape and size I could find, but no way. Lucky for me the thumb sucking only lasted til he was 3. It’s not to just shut them up, it is a comfort to them.

  6. I had two ,one had dummy ,strengthen sucking ,and other did not ,have 5 Grandies and they had dummies,all gone before around two,mostly used at nap time

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