What happened to beauty as it was? 73



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When I was growing up, you were either pretty or you weren’t. It was a fact of life but it almost didn’t seem to matter. If you weren’t classically beautiful, there was no need to worry as you would still make a wonderful wife and mother, and you could always do your hair nicely or wear flattering clothing. I was not a classically beautiful girl, in fact I wasn’t pretty by any stretch of the bow. But I was confident and happy, though not without my hang ups. As I look around today, I see young girls so focused on their image it makes me feel unwell. I see young girls, no older than 12, sashaying around the shops in high heels and shirts that expose their stomachs, hoping that they will attract attention and look great…when it really does the opposite.

That’s not really the point I’m making, the point I want to make is that I feel like natural beauty and acceptance of self has been lost. I can’t count the amount of ads that advertised products that clear, get rid of, smooth, brighten, lighten, whiten your face. It’s almost irrelevant that your skin doesn’t know the different between all these creams, or, as nasty as it sounds, that a mutton should not dress as lamb. I love seeing fresh looking girls without the slathering of makeup – it reminds me of what we used to value. Our appearance was important – we were immaculate – but we didn’t want to look like everyone else. We didn’t want to ‘overline’ our lips (apparently that’s a trend, says my granddaughter) or draw cat-winged eyeliner on or contour every bone.

So natural beauty is dead in my eyes. At least for the younger generation. They’ve never been told that wearing little or no makeup is attractive, in fact it’s quite the contrary if you turn on the TV. If you don’t wear makeup, you’re unattractive and unkempt. You have no care for your appearance and you won’t get a boyfriend or husband. No man will look at you with those freckles! But in all my years, I’ve never heard a man say, “oh I wish that girl had more makeup on”! No, they much prefer a clean girl with nice clothing and a smile. Beauty comes from within but I really worry that it’s what’s on the outside that counts to our dear granddaughters. Our material world has turned them into airbrushed versions of themselves and I just wish they knew that natural beauty stands out a lot more than makeup ever will. And don’t get me started on plastic surgery – it’s just ballooned out from where it used to be as women my age, younger and even younger than that book in for injections and fillers and implants. They can’t accept their image for what it is and it is terribly sad. My advice for my granddaughter has been to love yourself, and I always told her mother to show her child that she loves her body…promotion of good body image by a natural-looking role model is all we need!


What do you think? Do you think natural beauty has been lost? Do you think younger generations have stopped liking their natural selves? Tell us below.

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  1. I’m 64 and right from my early teens I always wore makeup, admittedly not at school, but I certainly cared about how I looked and I still do. Unfortunately, today’s kids, even those in primary school, have a lot more pressure on them to look good and to be accepted.

  2. Im 64 and right from my early teens I always wore makeup, admittedly not at school, but it was something I chose to do, even way back then. Unfortunately kids of today have a lot more pressure to look good and to be accepted. I wasn’t influenced by media, television, advertising or crazy music artists and I turned out ok. So hopefully today’s young people will turn out to be as normal as I did. By the way, I still don’t leave the house without makeup.

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    • Hear you Wendy. What you have written is exactly my views. Stop knocking the young for all they do. I have met and know some wonderful young men and women. It is what is in their hearts that count. That is what is important…..

    • Agree with you Wendy, it makes me so mad to see all the negative comment on here all the time about the young, anyone would think we were the most perfect generation ever & have the right to complain about everything about them,sad how some people as they age can only live in the past.

  3. Some ‘rose coloured glasses’ parts to this. Difference and change do not make things wrong and besides it has been forever thus for each generation since the ancients!

  4. I actually remember (but in my later teens, certainly not the earlier ones) lots of eyeliner, false eyelashes! Lots of fun.

  5. I’m hearing you. The young girls of today are being set up as high maintenance painted dolls. As one who has never dyed my hair, wears a bit if lippy & tinted moisturiser (for special occasions only), and is always at least a season behind in fashion, I wonder how others afford it all anyway.

  6. true some can’t go anywhere without makeup but a lot can, it is up to the parents to role model. It did matter in the past you were either pretty or ugly & boys could be so cruel, that was my experience.

  7. Even when I was busy with three little boys, I never left the house without makeup. I am now 72 and on my own and still never leave the house without makeup

  8. I think hopefully it’s just a stage we all go through. There are so many more products now,and for most finding their self esteem is a long journey,so if the make up helps enhance that for a while it is filling a need.

  9. Make up makes my face feel dirty , the odd times I apply it I can hardly wait to get it off again

  10. The sixties was a trendy look from pancake makeup false eyelashes black eye liner and skirts that were short matching nickers were a must. Stocking changed to tights or we did without. So our fashion was much to be desired. We thought we looked Fab! Then late seventies in hippie dress genes and skimpy teeshirts. Admittedly we wore less makeup but no bras was silly. The most terrible fashion was the eighties. So in answer to the put down of this generation. Fashion was and is not women’s best friends. Some how they have to see what really suites them and flatters their figure.

  11. In the sixties, makeup was all important, especially, the eyes. And we had bouffant hairstyles. So the natural look, which I wore was unnatural! I remember friends asking me to let them make up my eyes and see the difference. When they finished, they decided that I looked terrible with makeup and left me alone. My main concern these days is the number of young things who think they have to have breast enlargements. Surgery is dangerous!

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