Was our generation the first to lose the art of respect? 94



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Last weekend I had an interesting discussion with my grandchildren about respect. My grandson had learnt about respect in his first week of year one and was enjoying telling me all about it. He used a couple of examples to explain the concept to me and I went along with them gleefully.

He gave me an example of having no respect and said if he told Jonathon that he was bad at reading that would be having no respect. Then he said if he called Jonathon an “idiot” then that would also be having no respect. He was quite proud as he said these things and I was proud of him for being so at one with the concept but then I realised something and I was quite shocked.

My mother wouldn’t have ever called anyone an idiot. It simply wasn’t respectful. Even my father would have never called anyone an idiot for the same reason – at least not out loud. My grandson wouldn’t call anyone an idiot because he now know it isn’t respectful.

Yet when I think about people I know on Facebook and the others who are part of this community here, many of us throw around the word ‘idiot’. They call each other ‘idiots’, to politicians and anyone else who they don’t agree with or who doesn’t agree with them. This is our generation doing it – not our parents, not our grandchildren, but us.

So I have to wonder, are we the first generation to really lose the art of respect?

We are so quick to judge, to call other people names, to make insulting remarks about other people’s region, beliefs or personal opinions – all you have to do is read a vaguely political post on Starts at 60 and you’ll see it.

Our parents didn’t say things like that to each other, no matter how different of opinion they had. They were happy to quietly remain with their differences and knew that it was wrong to put your own beliefs above others. So why are so many of us bitter, angry and self-righteous?

I’m not saying everyone is those things, we definitely don’t set out to say cruel things to other people (for the most part) but it happens.

I feel like we were the first ones to really lose respect for others. It was a basic social etiquette that we were raised with but now we reserve respect for only those who we feel deserve it – not everyone.

I feel strongly that everyone deserves respect. I taught my children that if you don’t have anything nice to say then don’t say it at all. I accept that other people have different views to me – and I’m fine with that! If we all agreed on the same things then our political happenings wouldn’t be so entertaining.

But I do feel like somehow, somewhere along the lines we were the ones to lose respect. We think that the younger generations have no respect for others and are running around being rude but have we ever stopped to consider that we’re the ones who raised those generations? And we might not be so innocent ourselves…


Tell me, do you think that our generation has lost the art of respect? Do you think we were the first to show what disrespectful really looked like? Although you may not be personally at fault, do you see it in other people our age?

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  1. Definitely food for thought. Perhaps we all need to take a step back n look at ourselves.

  2. My eight year old grandie won’t play with the four lads of similar age who live near me when he visits. The reason? They are not respectful of each other – and they swear! I think we all need to go back to ‘playing the ball, not the person’. Having a silly idea does not make one an idiot!

  3. This article Has it right…. People have become so publicly and personally critical and the media feeds it….. Take a look at our reality TV.

  4. Lovely article – Many years ago I taught young children and loved the fact that they were so open to concepts such as respect, fairness, caring … Sadly they don’t always have the role models to consolidate these attributes in later life. What a responsibility we have.

  5. Born in ’49, I look at my teens with the advent of pot/heroin, miniskirts going up double decker buses, lyrics of the Animals song “It’s My Life” etc and I wonder what I taught my kids without being hypocritical. Thank God there’s God (through Jesus).

  6. Respect is a 2 way street, I am just as capable of name calling as the next person, But I tend not to call anyone names , even Tony Abbott who I loath, I simply call Abbott. But if someone wants to call me names for having an opinion that disagrees with theirs, then respect has gone out of the window and I will not give you any respect back. The moral is..treat others as you would like to be treated !!

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    • Oh Libbi, your last sentence is the correct one – but you don’t follow through with it otherwise when someone called you a name you would still give them respect (as you would like to still be respected). I always say ‘Don’t go down to someone elses level – stay on your own or go higher”….

    • Your right Josephine ( I love that name) to be honest sweetie now I just block I can’t be bothered with it

    • Treat others as you would like to be treated- that means to respect them even if they are abusive and not to treat them as they treat you. If you respond abusively you are no better then them and the quote you cited makes no sense.

  7. Totally agree. So much dis respect from a lot of comments by our generation in here. Why can’t we have opinions but not be nasty and rude.
    “If you can’t say something nice then so t say anything”.

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