The conversations we have as we get older 184



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I was listening in on a conversation some women were having at a coffee shop the other day. Maybe I was eavesdropping, but I couldn’t help but be intrigued. They were, like me, in their early-mid 60s and were talking about the men they were dating. My God, I thought! They’re talking about dating? They are in their 60s! But then I realised, we’ve have practically come full circle in what we talk about as we age – our partners sadly die or leave us after many years, and we go and look for another with varying degrees of success….then we talk about it in coffee shops.

I have to say I was surprised as only a week before, I overheard a conversation in the lunch room at work. Two 40-year-olds were talking about their weekends – one had gone out on the boat with the kids and husband. The other enjoyed some Moet with her partner for their anniversary, as they watched some fireworks from a nearby celebration on the deck of their very big home in their very affluent suburb. The nonsense that was coming out of their mouths was unbelievable! They didn’t stop for a breath as they discussed their cars, fitness regimes, sex lives and most of all, the money they had. It was appalling and it made me wonder – is this really all we can contribute to society? Have we lost our personalities?

My son was telling me about the debate he’d had with his friends about who would or should win the Queensland election. Now, that is some interesting conversation. But isn’t it supposed to be the other way around?! The 60-year-olds should be talking about the election and the young ones who be talking about dating! I, personally, prefer to talk about a range of topics, but never about money, dating or politics. I don’t have a lot of friends per se, but when we are together, my mind tends to switch off. Sometimes I wonder if anyone my age wants to talk about interesting, thought-provoking things like science, spirituality and expanding one’s mind…! Are there people out there like me?

When people ask who their ideal dinner date would be, they usually say Oprah, or the Queen, or George Clooney. But I would just love to have a rousing conversation with someone in their 60s who has travelled the world and has had profoundly beautiful and amazing things happen to them. Someone who threw the bowlines in and sailed away from the safe harbour. Who never sat at their desks in a little box, typing away their entire lives. Someone who speaks richly and can teach me things. Sure, gossiping can be fun from time to time, but I crave meaningful conversations in my 60s – does anyone else?


What do you talk about with your friends? Do you agree with this writer? Do you have meaningful conversations or do you speak about surface-level things? Tell us below.

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  1. I think by the time we get to where we are … well for me anyway … I have been using my brain all my life and even went to Uni when I was 53 (and enjoyed it) Now I am happy to relax with my hobbies ans have a chat about my travels or grand children. Just my thoughts. If some one wants to have a meaningful conversation I am up for it but if not I can handle that too. 🙂 cheers

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    • Thought it was only me! I couldn’t agree more. I believe that some people in my age group, simply allow their minds to atrophy. It’s much easier to ‘follow’ rather than ‘lead’. Go with the flow; don’t have an opinion that might not be popular;don’t think about anything other than the banal; I could go on. Thank you. Youv’e touched a nerve……………….

    • I have just finished my morning coffee, reading all your posts. loved all the different opinions, and lovely to see, we women in aus have a voice. Thank heavens for women, coffee shops, politics, sex, men, family, passports,aches and pains, and a little controversary, because if we girls, all spoke about the same subject, we would not have been able to post any of our words. Have a great week ladies, get together, for a coffee, works wonders!

  2. People who only want to talk about themselves, that’s really boring!

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    • LMAO its so true they are boring its like living in there own head and u the sounding board

  3. Yes, Australians need to travel overseas to appreciate what a lucky country we are fortunate to be raised in. I will be working on a polling booth today and will will no doubt have to bite my tongue when people whinge and whine about the ‘nuisance’ of having to vote. Unfortunately this attitude is propagated by the media,

  4. You forgot the grandchildren …everyone talks about the grandchildren … I don`t have any. Travel..yes I love to hear where people have traveled, especially if it has been away from the tourist trails.I like the well worn trails also,there is always some little adventure with another persons perspective. Where have you been ?

  5. Oh I hear you! Nothing I love more than sitting round a table having a rich conversation with a bunch of interesting people. I am dating also but with someone who provides me with the kind of conversation I have craved for all my life – as well as being a warm generous hearted soul. I feel blessed!

  6. Then you’d better come and join me on my balcony for interesting conversations! There are times when we cannot avoid overhearing others, so please don’t be critical of this writer. It could be you next time.

  7. In my view we should just respect what people want to discuss amongst friends. If they are meeting for coffee then they are comfortable to discuss what they want to discuss. They are friends. I do not think they are bragging to each other. With friends you relax and that is what they are doing. After their coffee then they can all go back to their own journey in life.

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  8. Maybe it depends on where you live – I am in Canberra and the people I know tend not to have families so they talk about a wide range of different topics.

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