I thought I was alone in this but it turns out, husbands are just useless at this task! And it’s not something that just started once upon a time, it’s been going on since they were boys.
Almost every day I’ll hear a yell from across the house. “Where’s the hammer/tape/tongs/my hat/the other sock, darl?”
I’ll holler back, “Did you look -insert obvious place-“. I think we all know the mumble that comes after this question. They begrudgingly walk to the spot where it would obviously be and give it a ‘Dad look’. They then can’t find it and you have to get up from where you are or what you’re doing and find the item. It’s more often than not right in front of their face.
It drives me insane! What is it about men that makes them unable to look beyond their own two hands (and sometimes not even there)? What’s even more confusing is when they go to a hardware store they can find a 13mm pack of screws within 20 seconds.
I decided to look into it.
According to SheKnows, “recent studies suggest that gender differences in spatial abilities are real. Males demonstrate superior navigation-related spatial and projectile throwing abilities.
“By contrast, females demonstrated significantly superior abilities in recalling objects that were present and the locations of objects relative to each other. This skill explains why you can unerringly track down the last pair of black, round-toed, stack-heeled boots in your size [on the] clearance rack… yet get lost on the drive home”.
It’s even been suggested that this behaviour goes back to the origins of humans where men were hunters and women were gatherers.
Tiger Shark Music backs this up: “New research suggests that male brains are usually searching for the word to go with an item, so if the tub is facing the wrong way and he cannot read the label, he virtually can’t see it.
“This is why men move their heads from side to side and up and down as they scan for a ‘missing’ object”.
Oh well, I guess that lets them off the hook! Not really. I’m still trying to train my one!
Tell us, does this sound like your partner? Have you trained him to find things himself?