An open letter to every man over 60… 455



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Dear men over the age of 60 throughout Australia and the rest of the world,

I am writing this to you with anger in my head and my heart. Last week I went on a blind date. It was the first time I had seen someone since my husband died seven years ago.

I’m a 62-year-old woman and a younger friend had set me up with a 63-year-old man. I went into the date feeling confident, albeit a little wary of what was going to unfold, but I hadn’t come close to anticipating what happened.

I was told straight out that he would never date me seriously. When I asked why, thinking it was some kind of joke, he looked at me straight in the eye and said, older women aren’t fun or tight enough… And he winked.

I stood up and walked straight out.

Why do older men believe that women of the same age aren’t worthy of them? Why do they believe that women in their 60s aren’t fun or “tight”? And more importantly, why haven’t they ever looked in a mirror?

Yesterday I read an article about the 60-year-old American Apparel underwear model, Jacky O’Shaughnessy. The beauty was picked up in New York and handed a modelling contract last year – the same year that her partner turned to her, told he she looks too old and said he’s embarrassed to be seen in public with her.

What is so wrong with women over 60?

We have wrinkles, so do you.

We have grey hair, so do you.

We have baggage, so do you.

We have children, so do you.

We’ve had careers, so have you.

We’ve had mortgages, so have you.

We’ve had ups and downs, so have you.

We’ve had family battles, so have you.

We want to spend time being happy, so do you.

We want to embrace our sexuality, so do you.

We want to experience companionship, so do you.

We want to make new friends, so do you.

You see I fail to see how we’re different. I can’t see why you seem to put yourselves above us and lump us in a “no good” category.

We don’t advertise for men with large pockets, fit bodies and dazzling smiles. We want friendship and fun – so why can’t we make it work together?

40 years ago you would have jumped at the opportunity to spend time together and make friendships or more, so what has changed?

It’s all well and good to want someone younger, prettier and fitter than the over 60 women, but you have to remember – you’re not necessarily young, fit and handsome either and expecting that while disregarding us is rude and absurd.

Although I didn’t have my heart broken, that blind date made me feel so much hurt that I was a write off from the outset.

To all men over the age of 60 throughout Australia and the rest of the world, if you’re going to label us, just remember that we and the younger generation, can do the same to you.


One over 60 woman

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  1. Sorry to hear that and admire you for walking out, Well done!!
    I would imagine it has put a huge dent in your self confidence but I’m sure not all of the 60 age bracket is the same !!!

  2. What a shame that you were treated so badly by an egotistical self-centred man! It must have been such a big step for you to venture out on this date after the loss of your husband. You have more than likely had a lucky escape! I just hope that this experience does not spoil any future decisions in getting to know someone else if you choose to. There are a lot of good men out there that would like the opportunity to meet a like minded companion.

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    • I don’t think he is good enough for her. What a tosser!!! She’s obviously too intelligent for him too. I hope she goes out again and that she finds someone nice and who thinks he is fortunate to have met such a woman.

  3. Put it down to experience! There are plenty of super stunning, men out there, also looking for fun and friendship! Don’t let one prick put you off gorgeous!

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    • I have a friend who is divorced, and looking for friendship, and she is on a dating site, and all of her men friends are in their 40’s who prefer older women

    • I have yet to find one, after a number of years, in fact lots, most are like this fella

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      • There are droves or men, just like this one, all after women in their 40s, preferably younger if possible.They obviously don’t have mirrors, and lack self-awareness.

  4. Just so sad and angry that your first date was with such a horrible man. Please don’t let him put you off dating other men as hopefully there are some nice ones out there.

  5. That man’s behaviour is appalling and a reflection on who he is and I suspect who he has always been. Arrogant and egotistic. Good on you for walking out on him. There are good men out there who are lonely, and who have possibly lost their wives, equally looking for companionship. Don’t give up.

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  6. I guess you can’t judge all men in the same category- unfortunately he was just a bad apple in the cart. Makes one wonder why he was still trying to meet someone. In reality he was just trying to relive his lost youth.

  7. Noticed no replies from men says a lot

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    • He was an ass.hole and not representative of all men over 60. You will find the right partner if you keep looking. Same as finding the right dress that fits, looks good and enhances your assets. Men do respond.

    • It says as much as you want to hear. Open your mind and you’ll hear the good as well as the bad.

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    • Maria – Are you a man-hater or something? Not everyone gets on the net before the roosters crow!
      To the writer – There are a lot of genuine blokes out there. Just a matter of finding one.

    • Maria Norden, please don’t put ALL men in the same basket. I have “liked” every comment on here that supports the “lady” & I’m sure there are many more like me. (Not boasting, just saying.)

    • No not a man hater happily married for 40 years and I am up before the rooster crows because I like to have a relax with a cuppa before I get ready for work glad to see all the men coming out in support

  8. Sorry you can’t generalize on man over 60 like that. In life they are bombastic idiots without pleasure of living the fullest joy of women.

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