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This week, community member Cheryl wrote to us, asking for some community advice:

Has anyone been down this road and can you tell me how do I cope? I’m 67 years old and the father of my two grandchildren, a 13-year-old boy and an 8-year-old girl, has gone away for 18 months and I am left to care for them. As their mother walked out and left them six years ago I am the only member of my family that can do this. I am healthy and physically fit, that’s not my problem, I have to move out of my comfort zone that I have made for myself after retiring two years ago. Is there any group that I can join or turn to where I can get some emotional help in raising an caring for children full time?

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  1. Cheryl, what a fantastic Nanna you are, I could never imagine being in this position myself & have no constructive advice to offer you, but I admire you for stepping up & taking care of these young kids, I’m sure they need all the Love & support that you will smother them with, I know I would do the same for my grandchildren, it’s just what us Nannas do the best, love them.

  2. Cheryl, google..support for grandparent caregivers Australia, information comes up for support groups.

  3. Wonderful Cheryl.Oh, I see Lyn has posted what I was about to. Also, see if you can help at Canteen or Clothing Pool or any thing in their School Life. I looked after 6 of my 7 grandchildren on a day time basis only, and they loved that I got involved at the school. Good Luck, and enjoy every precious moment, mine are almost all grown up now, and it seems to happen in a flash!

  4. Well done, Cheryl. Good luck to you. Only two pieces of advice. Do what Lynn Bradford says and Google grandparent caregivers Australia. AND KEEP YOUR SENSE OF HUMOUR. I have two friends that are doing this and they say being able to laugh at yourself and the situations that are associated with bringing up your grandchildren is the only way they can get through the day. Hope all goes well for you and the kids.

  5. I look after 3 grandchildren on a Full Time basis, I am their sole carer. They are aged 12, 13 & 15. I have had the 14 & 15 year olds since birth. Taking them on broke up my relationship at the time. I am glad to help you in any way. If you care to message me and let me know what State you are in I will help you all I can. In the city I found it far less isolating than where I am now. Each State differs

  6. Hi Cheryl, I am permanent sole carer of my grandaughter who is now 11. I have cared for her since she was 4 yrs. She has just started high school. The Time for Grandparents are great. I am in Qld. Where are you? You can message me and I can send you info. Love hugs Marlee xx

  7. What an important job you have taken on and how lucky are your grandchildren to have you. Contact Centrelink to see what you’re entitled to.

  8. Cheryl what a great lady you are. Do go in and have a chat with your support people in the children’s schools as they are privy to a lot of information that can help you. I was a support teacher for many years and there are things out there that are available that are not openly advertised. There are specials out there that are there for you as we

  9. Where are you Cheryl I am in Ulverstone Tasmania & there is a group call Grandparents raising Grandchildren. Like you I am 67 & have had custody of my grandaughter for 2 years, she will be 3 in May so still have a few years to go. but there is a very good support group in this area. Message me if you need information

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