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This week, community member Betsy wrote to us, asking for some community advice/opinions:

So my husband and I are having great talks about how important sex is in marriage after 60; is it the same as when we were young, raising children etc.

Is sex to men a way of showing them how much women (spouse) loves them or not? Is this the only way they judge our love for them? Do men feel they are only used as the bread winner to their family and once they have grown up that’s it? They are not needed sexually, henced not loved? Women, how do you feel in regards to this? Does your sex drive lessen as we age and need sex less but still want to be loved? Is it true for women that to have great sex it’s the build up throughout the day that is needed to feel in the mood or not? Love to see what every one thinks.

What do you think?

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  1. The Women’s Health Nurse used to say”that foreplay began over cornflakes and went on all day”!!!

  2. I am over 60 and sex is not an issue for me..I don’t even think about it, but I am single, might be a different story if I was married or had a partner. I lost all sex drive after menopause

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  3. I’d like to have a partner!!! For lots of reasons!!! Thats one of them!!! But I really need company!! My fiancé passed away!!! 2 years this month!!! So lonley girl!!! But a happy one

  4. One should never kiss and tell.
    I’m not as good as I once was but as good once as ever.
    Over 70

  5. One of the best things about sex and being older is being able to totally relax about not getting pregnant or being interrupted. Of course it’s not the same as when we were younger, but it is wonderful to have someone to cuddle and if it happens it happens – if not, that’s perfectly OK too. No pressure now.

  6. Sex is more important after sixty because, lets face it, we have a few physical and medical problems that may inhibit our sexuality, therefore highlighting our lack of enthusiasm. We need to discuss it openly and without inhibitions so that both partners can decide how to proceed. We no longer have the wild urges of our youth but as mature adults we have needs and wants and if we want to stay happy and fulfilled we need sex. Simple biological fact. I never believed the old mantra that males need and want sex more than men, so ladies in my humble opinion, let your partner know what you want and vice versa. Lets face it. We may not have the stamina of old but we have more time and imagination to reach conclusions.

  7. Yes 60 yrs. Is not a problem it is how you see it for yourself.i am 80 my husband 75.we no longer have sex. But we still love each other dearly and we are now close and loving friends.it realy depends on your perspectives.

  8. Had enough sex in my youger years.Neither my husband nor i have worried about that side of things for many years.Strangely he was the first one to lose interest.

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