One of the most difficult roles a grandparent ever has… 85



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As a grandparent, one is responsible for many things. We are responsible for things like loving their grandchildren, for supporting their grandchildren, for giving direction (when asked) about parenting from your own children. But being the matriarch or patriarch means that you have the chance to create your own traditions, to lead the family in the direction that you think is best.

Before you say that is over reacting to the role, I want you to think about this.

Over this weekend, the Easter weekend, will you organise a family occasion? Will you get the family together for a picnic, barbeque or dinner to share special time together? Or perhaps, will you organise a family trip to the beach or bush instead?

They seem like pointless things at first, but whatever you decide to do becomes an opportunity for you to create a family tradition. Something as small as a BYO picnic in the park could become an annual event at Easter time and it becomes a family tradition for everyone to come together.

But the most difficult part is what do you teach your grandchildren about that tradition? At a time like Easter, the real reason for celebration is slowly getting lost over the years. What once was a time for Christians to reflect on the death and resurrection of Christ has become less intrinsically important as fewer people practice religion or have any religion at all.

It would feel somewhat wrong to teach grandchildren, especially those who have grown up in a non-religious household that Easter is about giving and receiving chocolate. Because regardless of whether you look at that as teaching generosity or sharing, it is in fact quite gluttonous.

So this Easter I want to know, how are you approaching your role in the family? I believe that the most important tradition I can create is special family time. I believe that the most important thing I can teach is the value of family – and spending time together.

Because some of my grandchildren are brought up in practicing religious households and others are not, I think that this is the most valuable way to approach Easter and give it a meaning that can be understood by those who care for the religious meaning and those who don’t.

How will you be handling your role in the family this Easter? Will you be creating tradition or teaching your family? Share your thoughts on our role in traditions in the comments below…

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  1. As a Christian I believe and celebrate all festivities and activities at Christmas and Easter.

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    • I believe that Christmas and Easter are special times to worship and also have family gatherings where everyone is welcome. It’s pretty easy to organise with an open day where people arrive any time and leave when they feel like it. Being flexible and enjoying each others company is much better than making everyone conform to your wishes.

  2. So long as families get together and get to interact it does not matter why how just so long as it happens.

  3. Not my role to force my views on my children(adults all) and grandchildren, let them enjoy Easter in anyway they see fit.

  4. Easter may be a Christian celebration to christians but it is actually a Pagan festival celebrated long before Christianity came into being. It is the a celebration after the planting of the spring crops and looking forward to a full spring and summer harvest. The eggs represent new life and prosperity.
    Christianity has stolen many pagan festivals and claim them as their own.

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    • They substituted Pagan holy days for Christian mainly to keep the population happy, and facilitate an easy transition. Christians believe Christ rose on the third day, so the Pagan renewal, represented by an egg, is appropriate. Like Christmas, it is a good time to get together with the family, and kids love the visit from the Easter bunny. My eight year old granddaughter has been made aware of the religious significance of Easter, as with Christmas, but we don’t ‘push it’, we just let her have fun. She is off to the Auckland Easter Show at present.

    • Don’t agree. Christianity occurred over 2000 years ago. We celebrate Jesus being born. His time on Earth 33 years. At Easter we celebrate Christ at His last supper. His betrayal by Judas and his subsequent handing over to the soldiers. His sentence of death, leading to Him being Crucified and coming back to life on the third day. The Easter egg symbolising the empty tomb and new life. Nothing to do with paganism!

    • Molly
      The pagans were celebrating the first full moon after the end of March hundreds of years before Christianity came into being. Look up your history.
      I’m not knocking your belief in your God. I am simply quoting proven historical facts.

  5. We are not religious but a long weekend will have all the family and friends for great food and drinks. Can’t wait.

  6. We are having our traditional Easter Egg Hunt and Brunch at our home, with chocolates and Hot Cross Buns, and French Cricket and lovely home made food. Three generations look forward to this annual Family Event. No religious significance, just family relationships cemented.
    It’s hard to rationalise the rush to buy food and wine at Easter, with religion……

  7. I think Family time is important my role appears to be acceptance that my grandchildren visit their other grandparents. Why you may ask? Because I live close by and others live further away so have less opportunity for visits. My second one becomes the importance of giving, not just to my family, it’s become an Easter tradition that I give chocolate bilbies, not just the chocolate ones but the ones that donate a percentage to saving these unusual little creatures from extinction.

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