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In your 60s it can feel like you’ve become invisible, and Cheryl, one of our readers, has expressed that this week in a post to us.

Is it only me or do other over 60 feel like grey people, where we are no longer recognised for our individual achievements or personalities? We are now just grey haired old farts waiting for someone to recognise us before we have finally disappeared altogether.

Tell us, do you feel the same way? Do you often feel invisible? What is your advice to Cheryl?

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  1. Let me just say I don’t have men chasing me like I used to have and what a relief that is 🙂 No I am not gay I am just very awkward I suppose you would say, I never knew how to handle it. I only had one boyfriend and I married him and that was a disaster , I guess I never had the learning and flirting years that most teens have. I am happy being the age I am at

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    • Luv yr response Libbi, like you don’t care about the men side of things now, so happy with life and all it has to offer. We are still here and laughing and chatting how lucky are all of us. Guess I am grateful for the life I hv😃

  2. No I am fine I just stick my head up and say something silly and force them to serve me to shut me up 🙂

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    • Ha ha ha Rosalind way to go. There are many service personnel who ignored “Hodgo” at their peril. I can do a comedy routine about being invisible that has others, waiting for service, crying with laughter.

  3. Yes, seems we are scary over 60, so people avoid looking at us! Take heart, though, as it gets better as one ages further…. they start to perceive we exist in their sphere, and especially if you smile sweetly and genuinely. peace, old susanne xs

  4. Yes feel invisible at times .best to get out there enjoy life .have a make over .join a group or club .and be with fun people we all getting older .

  5. I even had a minister at church tell me that in his opinion older people don’t matter because he is only interested in young people who are the future. Needless to say I left that church for another one that cares for all ages.

  6. sad, I no longer bother to get out of bed, seem little point.

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    • That is your choice. You are the only one who can make a change. Responsible for your own actions & therefore the consequences

  7. Just these last few weeks I have been invisible to my own age group. I am fortunate to be able to walk un aided, but the number of times I have stood aside to allow a similar aged person to proceed and been totally ignored is astounding. I will hold a door for anyone following me, stand aside for mothers and prams but the quiet “thank you” seems to have disappeared from my generation’s vocabulary.

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    • Heidrun Kneebone I have no choice! The young mothers say “thank you” while juggling a pram and a toddler or two surely I can expect similar from my own generation. There is not much I can do about it, I guess.

    • Today – I was treated so nicely by a “young” service provider, at Ford. I took my car in for it’s routine general servicing. She actually looked me in the eyes and talked to me. She listened to my concerns, and actually took me seriously. Before I left, I had a few boxes of chocolates in the back of the car I had bought for christmas presents for my kids – I gave her one of them. She was so happy, her reaction took me by such surprise, because she said, ” nobody has ever done that before, half the time it’s like I’m not here”, and she threw her arms around me and gave me a hug. Just saying – sometimes people before 60 are feeling the same way.

  8. Cheryl know how you feel gets a bit lonely try volunteer work they are mostly old farts just like us & they know what your talking about been through the same things

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