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The things we’ve been putting off forever might never happen unless we say to ourselves “if not now when” and as the new year approaches I want to ask you what you want to do “now” to tick something off your list.  

As I write this I am headed to tick off one of my bucket list items… I swore two years ago that I would afford myself a family holiday for my 40th birthday and next week is the big day, so off we go to one of my favourite little villages in the middle of nowhere, together with three generations of my family to sit around, do nothing and be grateful.     (Yes for those of you who don’t know I am not 60 – sorry to disappoint but please don’t hold that against me – I dedicate much of my life to serving over 60s). 

I really believe in “If not now, when” as my strategy for getting the most out of life.  I think my poor husband might regret marrying this approach, but it makes for a lot of fulfilment, even if it comes with a whole lot of asking when he will finish that task… 

In contrast, I sat with an extended family member chatting the other night.  At 68, he lost his beloved wife to cancer two years ago and has been heartbroken ever since.  He won’t plan a trip, has struggled to find new hobbies and in conversation is constantly referencing her not being here as his reason for not planning anything.  He used to be a massive over-achiever, and shared all his achievements with her.  Now he finds few reasons to grasp his old attitude and that made me sad.  I think it makes him sad too.    

Having spent so much time with people who have lost their nearest and dearest here at Starts at 60 I wanted to hug him and shake him all at once… but I didn’t.  I just listened, reflected and discussed why he felt he couldn’t plan a trip or find something new to enjoy.  Most of us here know that grief travels in stages, and all I could do is hope that he finds another more resolute stage in the coming year and finds ways to enjoy the life he has ahead.  

I know I live my life through an incredible active spectre which most people do not.  “If not now, when?” is my stance, and this year I want to get everyone talking about setting ourselves three “If not now, when” targets… 

I’m going to take the lead… “If not now, when” is what I want to hear from you… 

I’m going to lose the last 10ish kilos I should have lost years ago, (and maybe the extra 5 that the last year added through my sedentary life of sitting at the end of the computer).  And in doing this, I am going to get fit and healthy again.  

I am going to take three holidays with my family… I promise, and if I can’t afford to go somewhere nice I’ll make it simple and go camping!  The most important thing is that I make the time…. Now to decide when and where  (how exciting).  

I’m going to read more books… The last two years have had me soaking in the Internet, leaving little time for reading.  I can feel that my attention span has waned.  But when I take the time to read I absolutely love it.  So this year I promise that I will read at least one book per month that will stretch my mind.  

Tell us today what your three “If not now, when” items will be for 2016… 

Rebecca Wilson

Rebecca Wilson is the founder and publisher of Starts at Sixty. The daughter of two baby boomers, she has built the online community for over 60s by listening carefully to the issues and seeking out answers, insights and information for over 60s throughout Australia. Rebecca is an experienced marketer, a trained journalist and has a degree in politics. A mother of 3, she passionately facilitates and leads our over 60s community, bringing the community opinions, needs and interests to the fore and making Starts at Sixty a fun place to be.

  1. Mmmmmm….I will have to think about this. Not going to tell what my goals are though. I have a tiny superstition, that talking about goals or wishes, makes them less likely to become real.

  2. Interesting about the person grieving & using his loss as a reason to stop planning or thinking of a future. I like to look forward so will continue to do that & plan some trips, big or small & lots of family get-together & more time to read or relax instead of housework!

  3. I’m going on a trip to Hervey Bay in February and cairns later in the year and I’m doing line dancing now should have done years ago and spend more time with my family

  4. Rebecca you are our Inspiration! Truly, your Energy pulsates through your posts and gets us thinking and acting! When you posted the sugar free option, I tried that and last 10kilos! I still need another 10 off ,so I’ll join you in getting the next 5 off and I will join you in the other two goals as well! Let’s compare notes at the end of the year! AND! Have a most fantastic 40th! Oceans of Inspiration,Creativity and Love and Blessings be yours🌹🎉

  5. I’ve been doing just that for the last few years. What am I saving money for now, I ask myself, so I spend nearly all I have, mostly on holidays.

  6. Seem to have really enjoyed my xmas goodies a little too much and it shows! So first plan is to get rid of that do more excersise and find time to get out and about a little more

  7. Oh Rebecca you have an old head on your shoulders. It’s great and important to have goals. We’ve started ours we deserted the big smoke Melbourne and moved to tranquil Tasmania we found paradise on a river, We are going to build a little farm house we promised ourselves. We have been discovering Tasmania and loving it. But keeping family close is high on our minds and the grandchildren are flying in tomorrow, so excited.

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