How to know when it’s time to change your life 4

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You’re never too old to change your life.

Trust me, I’m living proof of that.

After turning 60 I sat back and looked at my life. I had been unhappy for a while – divorced, living in the country, separated from family and hating my job.

I felt trapped in the life I was in. I thought I was too old to make a change. I thought I was trapped financially, geographically. Trapped in the only life I thought I knew, the only one I could afford.

So for a few years, I suffered through. Hating every day, hating my job – and having no real excitement or plans for the future.

I was so thirsty to travel, to find love again and experience the things I felt I’d been missing out.

And then, one day, I decided it was time to make that change.

I needed to get out of that dead end town, away from the soul destroying job and live again.

I had goals I wanted to achieve, a future I wanted for myself and I certainly wasn’t doing any of that where I was.

So, I decided where I wanted to move. The city.

That was the first step. The biggest step. Making that decision to finally change!

The next step was the money side of things. I had enough holidays banked up with my job to give notice and have a healthy pay out at the end.

I also made the huge decision to sell everything I owned that I no longer needed to fund my move.

Sometimes in life we become so bogged down with possessions. Trust me, when I started selling them off I felt so much lighter and free.

That was it. Once I started the change, I took a deep breath and went for gold. In one week I quit my job, starting applying for new part-time work, sorted out all my debts, found a place to live and sold half my house of stuff.

Within three weeks of making that decision, I was out. New job, new home, new surroundings. I had a happier, healthier, less stressful life and I finally started living the life I wanted and planning for my future.

I’m getting ready to embark on a great overseas holiday, and I’ve found love again.

You might be wondering how you know if it’s time to change my life?

Simple.

When you no longer feel like getting up in the morning. When you lose sight of what you want in life and what you want your future to look like. When you go days without laughing or start to feel trapped.

That’s when it’s time to change. Don’t keep putting it off for a few years time – after all, we never know how much time we’re guaranteed!

As William Ernest Henley says in his poem Invictus, “I am the master of my fate, I am the captain of my soul.”

You’re the only person who can change your life. The only person who can make the decision.

Have you ever changed your life like this reader has? How did you change your life?

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  1. Good on you. I totally agree with you. It only means being prepared to plunge into the unknown and uncover amazing riches that we would miss out on if we just kept plodding along. It is a choice and takes courage. All the very best.

  2. I had the courage when I was young. Don’t have it now.
    Back then I was 21 engaged to a nice young man. He was paying off a new car and I knew that in a year or so, he would be debt free. I was thinking, house, furniture, white goods but..he turned up in a brand new car. I said how could you buy this he said signed on the dotted line. All right – apart from managing money he was still a lovely young man. Then he turned up on a brand new motorbike….signed on another dotted line. That’s when I realized I couldn’t live a life like this. I said it’s either the motorbike or me. Fortunately – he chose the motorbike. I knew I was weak and if he came round visiting I’d crumble so I took a job in a town out west. I knew nobody but soon knew the people I worked with, who knew other people and in time-honoured small town hospitality I was soon happy and not lonely at all. Two years later, a knock on the door revealed my ex-finance. I’ve sold the bike (crashed it actually I found out later) I was very very tempted but then he revealed he had a brand new ‘all the trimmings’ Holden Monaro now and did I want to drive it. I was able to say no thanks. He was a nice young man with a kind heart and I still wish him the best – but not for me. Within 12 months of that, I met a man with a second hand motorbike and a severely second hand falcon ex taxi and forty years later, we bought our very first brand new car. Perhaps I don’t have courage because I don’t need it?

  3. This woman was very lucky. Big change! all in three weeks! I do not believe it. Be positive yes but a new job at over sixty in 3 weeks? Still cannot believe it.

  4. It’s all to do with attitude and the desire for something better. I felt I was missing out on seeing my son and his family so I moved, from Brisbane to Perth. As a 62 year old single woman I found work quickly and everything has fallen in to place. I think with work, you need to be upbeat and willing to do anything, legal that is 🙂 the bonus is seeing more of my son and his family and enjoying the Grandma moments . Couldn’t be happier! You need to be brave and positive 🙂

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