What kinds of relationships have you created over the years? Many of us have followed a predictable pattern: marrying in our 20s, children in our 20s and 30s, focus on family and community relationships until the kids go off to work or university or marriage, then empty nesting and grandkids.
While there’s absolutely nothing wrong with this, I know of many people who reach their 60s and are aware that their relationships are not all they would like them to be. They would like to explore different kinds of relationships, or improve the ones they are in, yet feel confined to fulfilling traditional roles and acting in ways that are deemed “appropriate”. This idea is often adamantly supported by our children who don’t want to see mum or dad doing anything that upsets the status quo.
Unfortunately, this is all about outward appearances and has little to do with what actually works for each of us, yet “tradition” is what we are conditioned to adhere to. With over fifty percent of all marriages ending in divorce, and many people staying with their partners despite abuse, or addiction, or having grown apart, it’s clear holding onto what looks proper from the outside is not enough. I know of many people who have tried to make changes in their relationships but have lacked the information to be successful.
I have found 5 qualities that are present in all great relationships, whatever their form. These qualities can all be chosen and cultivated; I call them The Five Elements Of Intimacy.
By choosing in incorporate these five elements of intimacy, you can create a great relationship, whatever the outward form. And, even if your partner isn’t on board with all of these, your choice to include them and be them will create huge changes in whatever relationship(s) you are in. Yes, these elements work with our kids and business relationships too!
What do you do to make your relationship work? What are your secrets to a great relationship? Tell us below.