Are modern parents completely spoiled? 89



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An article caught our eye the other day in which a woman complained her children were a “blight” on her marriage.

Listening to this woman’s list of complaints about how her life revolves around her children, and that they are ruining her marriage makes us want to reach down the internet and shake her!

If only she knew how fast life goes and how quickly they grow up and are gone. Are modern parents really so spoiled that they can’t enjoy their children any more?

Kate Morris, a writer from London, describes a typical day in life, which starts with her 11-year-old waking her up in the night, involves lots of shouting to get everyone out the door in time, and ends on the couch, cuddled up to her 14-year-old son while watching TV. How blessed she is!

But no, the writer says, “I can’t remember the last time I snuggled up to my husband, hid my face in his chest during a scary film, or even held his hand. The problem is our children are our constant companions.”

Ms Morris explains that she and her husband didn’t have great childhoods and are determined be around for their kids. But…

“When we were children, there were much stricter boundaries. Children did not stay up with the adults, or socialise with them, or sleep in their parents’ beds. We, on the other hand, seem to have no boundaries at all. Our children spill over into all aspects of our lives.”

The mother of two laments the lack of support from the children’s grandparents, who live far away, and the dullness of her present life compared to her past as a foreign correspondent, the fact that all their hard-earned money goes to the children’s piano lessons and other activities, that any spare time is filled with helping with homework and ferrying children to sports.

“Weekends can be soul-destroying,” writes Ms Morris. “They are all about the children, and as they have grown older their demands have not abated.”

What really gets our goat, though, is when Ms Morris describes the early years of parenthood, in which her husband was supportive and pitched in to help with nappy changing and bottle feeds.

“Our early evenings were spent simultaneously bathing one child and reading to the other. My husband spent interminable nights rocking babies to sleep. When we had two children, we spent entire weekends working around their timetables of naps and feeding times.”

Ha! How many men of our generation are only too willing to boast about the ONE nappy they changed in 1974?


The article, for which the author’s two beautiful children were photographed, is largely about the lack of time, energy and space left over in the parents’ relationship, but – judging by most of the comments, the real issue here is that Ms Morris resents her children. And that’s just not fair.

We’ve all had moments where we wished for more time and less responsibility. But to practically wish your kids away is simply too much.

Ms Morris writes, “There are times when I feel like running away and leaving everybody, or just fast-forwarding a few years until they are independent or have left home. But the minute I picture Luke and I sitting alone together, I feel sad and bereft. What will we do with that spare time?”

Tell us: Did you ever feel the same way as this mother? Does your daughter? What would you say to this mother, given the chance? 


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  1. I would love to have my time with my young children over again

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    • Me too Yes hard work We did mostly the nappy changing Taking care of our children Husbands worked We got up at night We slept with them when they were sick But I can honestly say It all went too quick I never resented. One moment of it Just sometimes I would of loved a moment to myself But certainly the good times

    • I agree. There r so many special events/moments. I now hav 6 grandchildren & its so special being a Nan its like getting a second helping. I love them all

  2. What an ungrateful and selfish bitch. There are a lot of childless couples who would love to be in her position. Clearly she should never have had kids.

  3. parentstoday don’t seem to want to say no. You can have time without the kids. lock the door & say it is mum & dad time. they might enjoy having time to themselves as well.

  4. Get over it lady you are the adult, I feel sorry for these kids, do you think that they can’t sense your resentment. The parent is the spoilt brat here.

  5. These parents are the ones that have set the rules not the children so don’t blame them for how their lives are working out.
    Enjoy each stage of your family life with each of the different demands. It is forever changing.
    It should not be expected by the young parents that grandparents have to look after grandchildren especially when distance or other commitments are involved.

  6. Get over yourself we choose to have children and I don’t understand you it seems like you resent your children Make the most of the time you have with them and look forward to grandchildren You sound a very unhappy woman and even seem annoyed that the grandparents live away and are not there at your beckon call

  7. It secease to amaze me why ever bothered to have childten, for god sake love your children while there young,,,,, they grow up fast then they leave home then you in this case it will be empty nest syndrome so stop bloody moaning &get on with

  8. I can’t write my real feelings because there are laws against profanity on facebook. Stupid woman!

  9. First parents set the boundaries Ie bedtime Or if the children sleep in the parents bed To me sounds she has no interest in her children and in fact has no time to even want to be prepared to give them the time I call it selfish these children are not tiny babies Yes it’s hard work but it goes far to fast I loved that time Even sometimes with no sleep

  10. I cannot put on here what I feel. But I know I would give any thing to wake up and find my kids asleep on the of the bed or with their pillow and blanket. Best days of my life now my son sleeps in a bed of concrete in the cemented. Stupid woman.

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