Are godparents necessary anymore? 57



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It was a very special honour to be named as a godparent for a child. When you were told, it felt like you were bestowed a great responsibility and trust, but also a part of that person’s heart. You knew that being a godparent was symbolic and it was a silent promise to be tied to that family for the rest of your days.

Nowadays, that special feeling and moment has not gone away entirely. Many families still choose godparents and it is still as much of an honour as it ever was, however it’s not as religiously connected as much as it used to be.

Couples in 2015 seem to be a bit more relaxed about godparents and, personally, I know many friends who simply chose a relative or best friend for that role, with no real obligation or promise exchanged. My own godfather died when I was 17 and I hadn’t seen him since I was 3. I suspect that’s the case for a number of people. My godmother is my aunt who I don’t see, and has no children of her own. At the time my mum told me she chose her because she had no children and if anything happened to Mum or Dad, she said would love to take care of us.

So I guess there’s that sense of obligation to certain people to name them as a godparent, but it does lead to the question of their necessity today and whether it’s seen as a moral obligation to your family to select godparents, without fully knowing what that entails.

In researching this article, it’s clear that the godparent decisions can be a significant one, though the role of a godparent has taken on many different forms.

Some say a godparent is a mentor to the family, while others select a person for their ability to become a legal guardian if need be. Some are simply chosen for their connection to the parents, and some godparents are a last resort.

If children aren’t baptised, godparents can still be chosen and then confirmed in a ceremony, but sometimes it can be a verbal agreement.


So we want to know today, do you think godparents are necessary? Are you a godparent? 

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  1. We are not religious by any stretch of the imagination but at the closing in on 64 I still talk as frequently as I can to my Godparents. Both my parents have since passed and they are really my only connection to my past. I love them and its wonderful to know there is still someone around who remembers me as a baby…but necessary sadly probably not!

  2. Yes most family units are so split with remarriage and single parents it is critical to have any effective support

  3. Personal choice. Good idea have ‘special’ people in place in the event of young children losing parents. I hv godparents.

  4. I think it a personal choice, I am not sure that being a God Parent would have the same meaning that it had when we were young

  5. No we kill ourself for nothing we raised them,wentwithout ,n u say do we need them,most grandchildren r brought up by them,to keep them safe, otherwise they wouldbe placed in homes so pedefils can have their way with them what a cheek to say we don’t need. Them anymore get a real job will u I’ve been there

  6. As a celebrant I conduct Naming Ceremonies. Each and every one, has included God parents/Guardians. Anywhere from two to up to 6! Parents take naming ceremonies seriously (although non religious), they choose carefully those family and friends that they believe will help to support their children, be there for them as they grow and develop. When I chat to the chosen godparents/guardians prior to the ceremony, they express how happy and privileged they feel with the trust that the parents have in them. It is wonderful that in this world of turmoil and change, that tradition (even though a non religious ceremony) remains meaningful

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