A touching letter from a mother to her daughter… 180



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This letter from an ageing mother has been doing the rounds of social media. It is very touching and we thought that we would share it with you…


“My dear girl, the day you see I’m getting old, I ask you to please be patient, but most of all, try to understand what I’m going through.

If when we talk, I repeat the same thing a thousand times, don’t interrupt to say: “You said the same thing a minute ago”… Just listen, please. Try to remember the times when you were little and I would read the same story night after night until you would fall asleep.

When I don’t want to take a bath, don’t be mad and don’t embarrass me. Remember when I had to run after you making excuses and trying to get you to take a shower when you were just a girl?

When you see how ignorant I am when it comes to new technology, give me the time to learn and don’t look at me that way… remember, honey, I patiently taught you how to do many things like eating appropriately, getting dressed, combing your hair and dealing with life’s issues every day… the day you see I’m getting old, I ask you to please be patient, but most of all, try to understand what I’m going through.

If I occasionally lose track of what we’re talking about, give me the time to remember, and if I can’t, don’t be nervous, impatient or arrogant. Just know in your heart that the most important thing for me is to be with you.

And when my old, tired legs don’t let me move as quickly as before, give me your hand the same way that I offered mine to you when you first walked.

When those days come, don’t feel sad… just be with me, and understand me while I get to the end of my life with love.

I’ll cherish and thank you for the gift of time and joy we shared. With a big smile and the huge love I’ve always had for you, I just want to say, I love you… my darling daughter.”


How old is your mum?  And is she still with you? 


This writer has chosen to remain anonymous.

  1. Oh to have the chance to speak to my Mum ( & Dad) again. To be more understanding & to ask questions that no longer can be answered. Time is of the essence so to all of you who are lucky enough to still have your parents -make every day worthwhile -enjoy them,their history & memories -be tolerant of their forgetfulness etc. as they won’t be with you forever. Once gone ,it can’t be regained.
    Beautiful letter from Anonymous.

  2. It is so true – we all still like to hang in there but at a slower pace.

  3. Even though I’ve read this before it’s beautiful, it brings tears to my eyes as sadly I lost my darling mother to dementia just two years ago a week before Mother’s Day

  4. I have a laminated copy of this that I read if I sometimes feel impatient with my 90 year old parents. I love them to bits, and am so very fortunate to still have them at this ripe old age, still living independently. Every time I read it I feel teary and humble, it is so relevant to many of us.

  5. I still miss my darling Mum- she passed away 39 years ago, aged just 50- she was too young, and I missed sharing all my highlights – the birth of my 2 younger children, their weddings and now the birth of my grandchildren- she was the BEST!

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  6. Such beautiful words! I was very fortunate to have had my Mum till she was eighty one, still very much aware of life and was mentally alert. Having worked in nursing homes for almost twenty years, my one fear was she may have to go there one day,she had a heart attack and died a peaceful death. I miss her all the time even tho it has been 25 years since her passing.RIP my sweet Mum.xxs

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