Meeting someone over the internet is getting more and more common, with Internet dating sites soaring in popularity. However, more often than not, falling for a lover online can be a recipe for disaster with the potential to be duped by a savvy scammer.
Exchanging messages via email can make it difficult to interpret someone’s feelings and unfortunately the old rule applies, that if it seems too good to be true, it probably is.
That is the situation one concerned granddaughter has found herself in after her beloved grandmother was swept off her feet by a man she met online, having become engaged to him within a month of dating, before tying the knot and moving in together.
Sharing her thoughts and worries on forum site Reddit the 28-year-old explained that she isn’t sure how well the newlyweds are getting along and is worried that her grandma may not be okay.
“I was happy for her and trying to be supportive, but my aunt said his demeanour changed the day after they got married and I’m having trouble knowing if my grandma is okay.
“I can’t tell if the vibe I get now is just because my aunt said that or if anything really did change.”
The woman went on to say how this is her grandmother’s third marriage, after her second husband sadly passed away around six years ago. Eager to build a connection with someone new, the loving granddaughter said her grandma wanted to move into a new relationship quickly.
She added: “Her and my grandpa got married within a year of meeting, which she always used as evidence for how a relationship can work that quickly.
“And she also said ‘when you’re my age you have to move quickly to get what you want because you don’t have time for games’. That makes sense to me, so when she finally met this new guy, Richard, and he proposed to her within a month, I figured it was alright and she knew what she was doing.”
Unfortunately, according to the granddaughter, things could be set to take a turn for the worse as the family are concerned that things have started to turn sour between the pair. She added that her aunt initially suspected something was up, before deciding to check in on things herself.
“She (her aunt) said that when she visited their new house the day after their wedding, he was much colder and a little bossier with my grandma than he had been previously,” she wrote.
“The next time I visited I noticed that he was kinda bossy, but I couldn’t tell if it was real or if I’m only seeing things because my aunt mentioned it to me.”
Worried about her gran, the woman asked fellow Reddit users for their thoughts on the situation, with the majority saying she should continue to keep an eye out for any worrying signs.
“I would keep good communication with her and make sure to glance her physical appearance when you see her. Unfortunately your grandma is a very vulnerable demographic and can be taken advantage of very quickly so your worries are not unfounded,” one person wrote.
Another suggested she ask her grandma out to lunch to try and gain some insight into the relationship. “You can ask her outright if he is kind to her/safe. Whether she does or does not go out with you, make it very clear that you are always there for her if she ever needs you, no matter what the reason,” they said.