Suffering from vaginal dryness? How to make intercourse enjoyable again

Nov 02, 2020
Vaginal dryness is a common symptom for women going through menopause, but there is a way to still enjoy intercourse. Source: Getty

Menopause can be one of the most distressing and challenging times in a woman’s life with hot flushes and mood swings wreaking havoc and putting an overall dampener on life. But, there’s another symptom that some are perhaps too embarrassed to talk about and it’s actually quite common.

According to the Australasian Menopause Society, up to 50 per cent of post-menopausal women experience vaginal dryness. And while other menopausal symptoms tend to decrease or become more manageable over time, problems with the vagina and urinary system tend to persist for much longer.

You see, prior to menopause, estrogen helps to develop female body characteristics, such as breasts, but it also helps to keep the tissue lining of the vagina thick and moisturised. But, as you age you may develop vaginal atrophy. This occurs when estrogen levels drop, causing the vagina walls to thin and become dry, sore and itchy. It can also make sex painful and uncomfortable and even increase the possibility of infection.

And if intercourse is a big part of your relationship, this could have flow-on effects into this area of your life and overall satisfaction with your partner. Something you don’t want to be dealing with on top of the other symptoms of menopause.

Thankfully, when it comes to making sex more enjoyable you can use lubricants to assist with vaginal dryness. A natural, water-based product is best to add moisture and will also help to alleviate any pain felt during sexual intercourse.

The Sutil Coconut Body Glide is a great choice. It’s made from organic flavour sources, it’s light and long-lasting and as a bonus is easy to clean from your body and bed sheets. For a different flavour you could go with the Sutil Cherry Body Glide or the Sutil Mint Body Glide instead.

Meanwhile, the Pjur Woman Vegan Water-based Personal Lubricant is equally as effective and is registered by the Vegan Society. It doesn’t contain animal-derived ingredients and hasn’t been tested on animals.

All of the lubricants and toys for the bedroom (if you really want to spice things up) are available for purchase on the Starts at 60 Marketplace. You’ll find everything from vibrators to kegel exercisers to help strengthen your pelvic floor. All of which could do wonders for your sex life!

Meanwhile, a diet high in fatty acids may also aid in producing additional vaginal lubrication. Pumpkin seeds, sesame seeds, sunflower seeds and fish (especially tuna, mackerel and salmon) are all good options as they are high in fatty acids, as are Vitamin A and B supplements and beta-carotene.

IMPORTANT LEGAL INFO This article is of a general nature and FYI only, because it doesn’t take into account your personal health requirements or existing medical conditions. That means it’s not personalised health advice and shouldn’t be relied upon as if it is. Before making a health-related decision, you should work out if the info is appropriate for your situation and get professional medical advice.

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