We are obviously too old to have sex!

Nope, I don’t want to have sex, I’m too old! Yep, that’s right, I’ve wrinkled shut and won’t be able

Nope, I don’t want to have sex, I’m too old! Yep, that’s right, I’ve wrinkled shut and won’t be able to do it any more. Oh no, I could never engage in the horizontal dance again, I’m 60…

In case you didn’t realise, I’m being sarcastic! I’m sick to death of reading magazines or seeing TV segments that assume that the only people who have sex are in their 20s. Condoms, contraception and even sex toys are marketed towards young people however I know for a fact that plenty of over 60s are in need (or want) of the above! A recent survey said that 65 per cent of over 50s are sexually active and 85 per cent said sex is not as pressurised as when they were younger – yes, that’s right: it’s much better in your 60s!

Even my own children shut their ears when I mention that their father and I are still quite active, and yes, granted, I wouldn’t want to know about my parents’ sex life either, but they have said numerous times that anyone over the age of 50 should just stop doing it. They ask sheepishly, how do you still do it? Well, just the same as we used to. Sure, we do have to change up the moves but they are by no means tame.

I do feel sorry for some men and woman over the age of 60 who have had sex for years, for medical or social reasons. Sex is not a filler for something else, but it does make me happy. I love the closeness of my husband and I, and while we don’t have sex 10 times a week, it is at least once every couple of days.

Occasionally have some help to get things going smoothly (if you know what I mean…) but it’s as passionate as ever. I want everyone to know that we are still sexual beings and the switch doesn’t go off as soon as you blow out the candles on your 60th birthday cake!

With all this said, one thing I have learnt about sex in my 60s is that you are not exempt from STDs. I have some girlfriends who have younger partners and they have contracted some nasty sexually transmitted diseases because they didn’t think they needed to wear a condom.

Sex can still be fun in your 60s and it’s not disgusting or wrong like the media portrays it. We learn to live with our wrinkles, bumps and sags, and revel in the parts that still work and feel good. I say, embrace your beautiful body as it is and be thankful for what you have been given. And if you don’t have a partner….then find one! It is so fulfilling to feel sexy and express the sexuality inside.

Do you have sex regularly? Do you think sex has gotten better in your 60s? Why or why not?

Originally published here

  1. Enjoyed your article with one exception, you said if you don’t have a partner then find one. I would like you to tell me how?

  2. John Jenkins  

    Check the first line of the fourth paragraph; it contradicts the whole article.

  3. Unfortunately, some women are of the thinking that once you have had your children, had a hysterectomy, or gone through menopause, that intimacy is no longer relevant or necessary in a relationship. This is very much dependent on both partners. Some couples just enjoy doing things together & being great companions, & this is okay if that is what they are both after. Intimacy can be so many things. But when one of the partners still has a need for intimacy, & there are not any signs of closeness, such as cuddles, kisses etc even without the physical side of sex, this is often where the needy person will look outside the relationship to fill that physical need..

    • Kisses to start and finish each day, holding hands when shopping or just in public and just being together is a loverly way to fill each day. If there is a bit of slap and tickle (to coin a phrase) “thats a bonus”

    • So Sorry Robyn thought yours was a personal comment, and I was just commiserating with you. Any way Happy New Year.

    • No worries Rose, I just couldn’t get the gist of where you were coming from, & didn;t want to get uptight about what was an innocent comment. I was of the belief that if you were always there for your partner & did enjoy intimacy, that they wouldn’t stray. But in my case this wasn’t so. I found out the night before my husband’s funeral that he had been having an affair with one woman for 12 years, & that wasn’t the one I actually found out about that had been going for at least 6 years. I thought after this, that we were trying to get our marriage back together, & believed it for a period of time till I found out the affair was continuing. So after 33 years, decided that iy was better to call it quits. It’s very hard to really trust again, & you get to be paranoid about things that occur that can’t be explained, & that you don’t get answers for. I did have another relationship after this, but when it started to become controlling, I pulled the plug on that one. I am quite happy & content on my own now..

    • Kerry Goodwin  

      Once trust is broken you can never fully get it back. Ruins relationships and makes you wary in the future.

  4. Still enjoy a bit of fun…I am almost 65 and he is almost 75..so not like in the younger days but all good. And his Parkinsons makes it a bit more fun if you know what I mean……wink wink nudge nudge

    • but when she ses “if I’m not back in 10 minutes start without me” “now thats a downer”

    • betta make room for two or three Jenny just incase the one for old times sake is a fizza, call it a practise run !

  5. Hubby 69 I’m 66, we still have a healthy happy satisfying sex life. It changes as we get older, (the sore joints change our position) but the closeness is wonderful. So lucky to have this wonderful love.

    • the old bloke wrote: Dear Dorothy Dix I’m 6’6″ and my new wife is only 4’9″ how will I get on?? ‘Reply”
      Dear old bloke, you’ll get on all right, but no-one to talk to???

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